Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

deb68_2

well said VickyLouise
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deb68_2

purpletoenails wrote: »

actually it would make a lot of difference to me if I knew her.

Does that mean you wouldnt be his BIT on the side then if you knew her?
if you saw the PAIN you an he were doing
or would it still make no differene to you?

deb68_2

purpletoenails wrote: »

EXTREME??!! I think your comment is a bit extreme to be honest. Either that or you've led a very sheltered life.

selfish - yes perhaps, I'm putting my own happiness above someone else's, but for me this is fairly unusual.

cowardly and delusional - I don't think I'm either of those things, sorry.

Extreme

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No Honest
Coward,an Delusional putting your own Happiness befor others a wife an KIDS

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Yes

VestanPance

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I see the vocal moral minority are still chuntering away on this thread. Those bitter because their own relationship has fallen apart and those so insecure in the relationship they have that they worry about women 'stealing' their men.

Must be so nice to be perfect

PTN - my advice? Screw the lot of 'em. If someone strays in a relationship the fault is theirs and theirs alone. The only reason why some of these women are being so nasty is because they're obviously of the ilk who prefer to heap the blame on the 'scarlet woman' because it means they can conveniently excuse the man, not have to face the problems in their relationships and attempt to gloss it all over and carry on as though nothing ever happened.

This post pretty much highlights the type of person you are and those who have thanked you for it.

neverdespairgirl

Emmzi wrote: »

I'm quite ok with a "nope, it's not working out for me" by email or whatever. I don't need exact reasons at my age. I'm not going to change, so we both want to be together more than anything else, or we don't. After that, there's nothing more to say. It's all just high drama for the sake of it.

If my other half were to leave our relationship, I'd defiintely want a discussion about it, rather than getting home to a half-empty wardrobe and a note saying, "see ya!

neverdespairgirl

purpletoenails wrote: »

I wasn't going to post this update because I know what sort of comments will follow, but for the posters that are genuinely interested, last Friday I deleted him from my phone, fb, messenger etc. He was understandably very hurt and shocked as I did it with no warning. I sent him a lengthy email with an explanation, and we spoke on the phone yesterday and have arranged to meet next week. He knows that it is make or break time, as do I.

PTN, make or break in what sense?

mountainofdebt

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I see the vocal moral minority are still chuntering away on this thread. Those bitter because their own relationship has fallen apart and those so insecure in the relationship they have that they worry about women 'stealing' their men.

Must be so nice to be perfect

PTN - my advice? Screw the lot of 'em. If someone strays in a relationship the fault is theirs and theirs alone. The only reason why some of these women are being so nasty is because they're obviously of the ilk who prefer to heap the blame on the 'scarlet woman' because it means they can conveniently excuse the man, not have to face the problems in their relationships and attempt to gloss it all over and carry on as though nothing ever happened.

Nice to see that the usual suspects thanked your post.

As far as I am concerned Mr Loser is equally to blame as PTN - him for not having the guts to end his marriage and be at least honest with those that are said to matter the most to him (ie his children - certainly he doesn't give a toss about his wife) and PTN for a)having the affair knowing he was a married man b) for trying to justify her actions c) not having the guts to end it when she said she was calling it a day.

Both are selfish and thoroughly deserve each other - I just hope that they get what they wish for

MoreOn

I've seen many men, women, of many ages (even up to 80) get caught up in this, some were given gifts, vehicles, homes etc... If it's a blame thing, they are all to blame, to what degree TBH I don't care..

A happy ending? as many have said in here it doesn't happen often, in some cases the wifey is happy to share

As for you PTN, if filling you boots is what you're into i'm not here to judge, I just wonder whether it'll be tough to look the wifey, kids etc in the face if he leaves them for you, they'll always remain part of his life...

I wish you luck in what you chose, just remember the clock doesn't stop..

Emmzi

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

If my other half were to leave our relationship, I'd defiintely want a discussion about it, rather than getting home to a half-empty wardrobe and a note saying, "see ya!

Well, you have division of assets and rearrangement of bills etc to work out.

Bit different to dating someone you see once a month or so.

FatVonD

I suppose if the majority of the relationship has been conducted via phone/text/online then I suppose it's fitting to end it that way too.