Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

nickyhutch

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Not my type of humour I'm afraid. Stereotyping women like that.

Also I think it is a cop out to say that all men are ruled by sex. Plenty of men do not have affairs, or even want to, and are quite happy to stick to one women.

Quite. Utter tosh.

northerner77

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Not my type of humour I'm afraid. Stereotyping women like that.

Also I think it is a cop out to say that all men are ruled by sex. Plenty of men do not have affairs, or even want to, and are quite happy to stick to one women.

I was just trying to lighten things up and indeed I'm one of those blokes who manages to stick to just the missus, otherwise probably wouldn't have posted it, eh? :cool:

Lotus-eater

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

One wonders if it is the people with less imagination who can't be happy with the one partner?

If I was to have a guess, probably the other way round. But it's impossible to generalise about that.

mountainofdebt

purpletoenails wrote: »

As in if we can't work out between us a solution that makes us both happy then there will be no point in continuing the relationship at present.

At what the hell would that be pray tell - I'm seriously interested in what you see as a solution that would make you both happy? What he gives you a promise ring so that when his children are all grown up and don't need any input from him then he'll feel morally happy to leave his wife but in the mean time you're fitted on on an as and when basis?

purpletoenails wrote: »

He's not Mr. Loser.

no he's a lying cheating poor example of a man - but Loser is much shorter to write.

purpletoenails wrote: »

I just asked him outright. Like I said, I've got not reason to believe that he wasn't telling the truth.

Well given he's an accomplished liar - and he must be to have carried on the affair with you for as long as he has - his word is hardly his bond is it?

cheepskate_2

purpletoenails wrote: »

I just asked him outright. Like I said, I've got not reason to believe that he wasn't telling the truth.

So this is the 2nd ultimatumn in as many weeks.

Am i right in thinking that you said you wanted him to come of his own free accord without being forced ninto it..

So now 2 weeks later you will happily accept him comming to you because you have forced his hand .

As for asking him outright , you again did that 2 weeks ago and look where it got you.......nowhere............................................oopps sorry it did get you somewhere, even further down in his esteem as he gave you a weak willed excuse and you jumped right back in there., no doubt to do the same again.

purpletoenails

cheepskate wrote: »

So this is the 2nd ultimatumn in as many weeks.

Am i right in thinking that you said you wanted him to come of his own free accord without being forced ninto it..

So now 2 weeks later you will happily accept him comming to you because you have forced his hand .

As for asking him outright , you again did that 2 weeks ago and look where it got you.......nowhere............................................oopps sorry it did get you somewhere, even further down in his esteem as he gave you a weak willed excuse and you jumped right back in there., no doubt to do the same again.

No its not the 2nd ultimatum in as many weeks - I've not even seen him in a month as he had to go away.

And no, I don't want to force his hand. If he wants a future with me then he needs to do something about it. I can't wait around indefinitely while he dithers about.

I'm amazed that some of the posters seem to know so much about what he is like as a person considering they've never even met him, let alone had a conversation with him.

Errata

The bottom line is that so far he's told you what you want to hear, because it would be pointless from his position if he told you things that wouldn't go down well with you.
He lies to his wife, and by default to his children. His wife has known him for twenty odd years so he's pretty successful at it. Why on earth do you think he wouldn't lie to you when he's so good at it even his wife can't see through him.

whitewing

purpletoenails wrote: »

I can't wait around indefinitely while he dithers about.

But it is okay for him wife to wait around while he dithers about? Oops I forgot that she apparently knows nothing about the nearly three years that you two have been deceiving her.

shellsuit

purpletoenails wrote: »

No its not the 2nd ultimatum in as many weeks - I've not even seen him in a month as he had to go away.

And no, I don't want to force his hand. If he wants a future with me then he needs to do something about it. I can't wait around indefinitely while he dithers about.

I'm amazed that some of the posters seem to know so much about what he is like as a person considering they've never even met him, let alone had a conversation with him.

I don't need to meet him to know he is lying, cheating and deceitful, as he is a married man having an affair with you. I know this because you have told us.

He might be sexy, handsome, funny and caring, but IMO the bad outweighs the good.

whitewing

shellsuit wrote: »

I don't need to meet him to know he is lying, cheating and deceitful, as he is a married man having an affair with you. I know this because you have told us.

He might be sexy, handsome, funny and caring, but IMO the good outweighs the bad.

Or the bad outweighs the good!