Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

CH27

purpletoenails wrote: »

I removed my thanks from this post as you edited after I'd pressed the button. I don't know his wife, I've never met her, she is not a friend or even an acquaintance of mine. I am not ruining her life for my own gratification. I am NOT trying to entice him away - that is a decision for him to make not me.

But you are.
I'm saddened that you are still deluding yourself so much.

Lunar_Eclipse

vickylouise87 wrote: »

Is there any way we can help you do the right thing in this situatio?.

Doubt it.

I don't understand this man or PTN at all anymore. Thankfully I've never come across such extreme selfishness, cowardly behaviour or delusion in real life.

essexgirly

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Doubt it.

I don't understand this man or PTN at all anymore. Thankfully I've never come across such extreme selfishness, cowardly behaviour or delusion in real life.

Forgive me for saying, but you must have lived a very sheltered life then, for you have never to have come across this behaviour before in any way shape or form

purpletoenails

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Doubt it.

I don't understand this man or PTN at all anymore. Thankfully I've never come across such extreme selfishness, cowardly behaviour or delusion in real life.

EXTREME??!! I think your comment is a bit extreme to be honest. Either that or you've led a very sheltered life.

selfish - yes perhaps, I'm putting my own happiness above someone else's, but for me this is fairly unusual.

cowardly and delusional - I don't think I'm either of those things, sorry.

Greenteanlemon

essexgirly wrote: »

Forgive me for saying, but you must have lived a very sheltered life then, for you have never to have come across this behaviour before in any way shape or form

Or just associated with the right people. :P

Do you know what, I'm getting married at some point in the near future... And people like this make me wonder whether I should or not. To put such trust in my partner only to be made a fool of... I'm not sure I'd be strong enough to move on.

What an awful thought.

sabretoothtigger

Catapa wrote: »

Dear Purpletoenails, there is always the odd chance of a happy ending. His RH the Prince of Wales managed to marry his long term affair against all odds.... why not Princesstoenails?

His former wife is dead and his children have lost their mother. Its not what I would call a happy ending


If the guy in this affair had another girlfriend would it still be an ok situation or is that not fair then

Errata

purpletoenails wrote: »

I removed my thanks from this post as you edited after I'd pressed the button. I don't know his wife, I've never met her, she is not a friend or even an acquaintance of mine. I am not ruining her life for my own gratification. I am NOT trying to entice him away - that is a decision for him to make not me.

So why are you ruining her life, if you believe it's not for your own gratification?

Greenteanlemon

purpletoenails wrote: »

selfish - yes perhaps, I'm putting my own happiness above someone else's, but for me this is fairly unusual.

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Oh, we believe you...

PTN, what were you expecting when you started this thread? That people would tell you it'll be okay, that they've been there too, give you some handy tips... Tell you what you are doing is justified, as we all do crazy thing for love...?

Why are you still here trying to justify yourself? No one is convinced that what you're doing is okay - you've just persuaded a board full of people that there are some truly awful people in the world, and that you are one of them.

It's not too late yet, but you're not going to stop what you're doing and you have complete disregard for love, and everything it stands for. So go, have fun being the other women. Enjoy being second best. Maybe one day you will find some self respect and exhibit some basic human decency. Until then, you're nothing but an inexpensive and incredibly gullible courtesan.

The sad thing? I was looking through this board this afternoon looking for tips for saving for a wedding. The whole idea makes me feel a bit sick now.

purpletoenails

sabretoothtigger wrote: »

His former wife is dead and his children have lost their mother. Its not what I would call a happy ending that was an accident and nothing to do with an affair happening


If the guy in this affair had another girlfriend would it still be an ok situation or is that not fair then

Errata wrote: »

So why are you ruining her life, if you believe it's not for your own gratification?

I do understand what you are saying, but I really can not see how I am ruining her life. Is it my fault they don't have a happy marriage? Is it my fault that he enjoys spending time with me? Yes I do take some responsibility because I am enabling him to have an affair, but it is not so that I can ruin her life just for some self gratification.

an9i77

purpletoenails wrote: »

I do understand what you are saying, but I really can not see how I am ruining her life. Is it my fault they don't have a happy marriage? Is it my fault that he enjoys spending time with me? Yes I do take some responsibility because I am enabling him to have an affair, but it is not so that I can ruin her life just for some self gratification.

PTN did not make any vows to the wife did she. Whilst I don't agree with what she's doing (more because I think she is selling herself short) let's not forget that HE is the one who is lying to his wife all the time, has made a vow to his wife that means nothing etc. So why all the blame for PTN and not for the man? PS PTN I do know of a couple where the girl, a friend of mine, started seeing a married man who after a lot of wrangling and toing and froing DID leave his wife for her, they are now living together. Is that the sort of happy ending you mean? But doesn't sound like your chappy is in this category, he's never spoken about leaving wifey for you now has he.