Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

gratefulforhelp_2

adindas wrote: »

I agree he is cheating but I would not consider she was cheating. Having a relationship with someone who already has wife is normal nowadays

I will take care not to visit your parallel universe. Say Hi to Rose and the Doctor for me;)

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Now you see I would just drink it!!!!!!

And me.

Lotus-eater

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes, I know. I would not say my head was held high, I was very low in every way for a very long time. I never felt angry, only sad and lonely
for a long, long time.

Even when he went on to marry her and have a child I was just so sad,but I felt no sense of satisfaction when they divorced.

I think you're a better person than me. I wouldn't seek to give hurt to someone, but would get satisfaction when it went wrong by itself.

FatVonD

The live-in partner of a friend of mine left her for her best friend (after months of torture telling her she was losing her marbles and imagining things.) The husband of said best friend called her and said 'I've given my wife crabs'. They lived in a seaside town and she'd asked for half the marital furniture, including the bed, and he'd carefully unpicked the mattress, put some crabs inside, and sewn it up again.

For me the best revenge is suddenly realising you couldn't actually be bothered to take revenge even if the opportunity presented itself.

Rebob

cheepskate wrote: »

No DNA tests in those days then.

You lived with a man that could be your father for 5 years but seem to have no emotion for him.

Oh but I do care a lot for him and still see him 32 years later.

cheepskate wrote: »

But this is the really sad and seedy side of affairs, where nobody knows the paternity of children and the mother choosed whatever man she wants at that tme to be the father,

In most cases the children never get to know what man is truely their biological father and cant really open up a emotional timebomb years LATER.

very very sad.

There was never any doubt who my father was.

Wickedkitten

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think you're a better person than me. I wouldn't seek to give hurt to someone, but would get satisfaction when it went wrong by itself.

I had the chance to get revenge on my ex husband but as stereotypically Latin as my temper is and despite the fact that this was going to be a dish of revenge right out of the deepest coldest bit of the freezer, I couldn't do it because he had a missus with a one year old who would be the one that ended up really getting hurt.

Mind 8 months later his missus ended up finding out and left him anyway, but least that was her decision and her finding out about him sleeping around on her rather than one that I would have been making for her if I had been a !!!!! and told her myself :A

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think you're a better person than me. I wouldn't seek to give hurt to someone, but would get satisfaction when it went wrong by itself.

Yeah, me too. When I left my only horrid ex there was PLENTY of opportunity for revenge. It was tempting for a moment, really tempted, and on occasion through a very uncomfortable and expensive breakup, but....I needed to live with myself afterwards. . I took the line revenge is a dish best served cold...and by the time it was cold....I'd moved on a lot.

harrys_nan

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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I have had all this done to me, but I still did/do not feel any need to want to hurt or get revenge.I think I am the happier for it as well.

I so agree, After I got over the shock of my marriage breaking up (which really did hurt ) I just thought if I'm bitter and twisted who's that going to hurt except me. It took a few weeks but we stayed friendly for the kids, even though they was older.
We still speak if we see each other on the odd occasion and I wish him well.:)

POPPYOSCAR

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

I will take care not to visit your parallel universe. Say Hi to Rose and the Doctor for me;)



And me.

Oh I would so love to visit a parallel universe and travel in the Tardis(Bit of a SciFi fan myself)

POPPYOSCAR

harrys_nan wrote: »

I so agree, After I got over the shock of my marriage breaking up (which really did hurt ) I just thought if I'm bitter and twisted who's that going to hurt except me. It took a few weeks but we stayed friendly for the kids, even though they was older.
We still speak if we see each other on the odd occasion and I wish him well.:)

That is good that you were able to think that way for both yourself and the children.

Bubby

lostinrates wrote: »

Yeah, me too. When I left my only horrid ex there was PLENTY of opportunity for revenge. It was tempting for a moment, really tempted, and on occasion through a very uncomfortable and expensive breakup, but....I needed to live with myself afterwards. . I took the line revenge is a dish best served cold...and by the time it was cold....I'd moved on a lot.

I am very good at the waiting game and revenge is definitely a dish best served cold;)