Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

POPPYOSCAR

I am ok with the 'funny' revenge tactics, they are harmless really- more irritating and annoying than hurtful.

adindas

I agree he is cheating but I would not consider she was cheating. Having a relationship with someone who already has wife is normal nowadays

thorsoak wrote: »

2. Quite simply, he is cheating, you are cheating ....
If you have any integrety, you would walk away now.

POPPYOSCAR

Errata wrote: »

Revenge? Leave a bottle of his wine on every doorstep in the village? Yep, I could do that. Cut one leg off every pair of trousers he owned? Yep, I could do that too. But the best revenge is living a far better life without them than with them.

Now you see I would just drink it!!!!!!

VestanPance

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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I have had all this done to me, but I still did/do not feel any need to want to hurt or get revenge.I think I am the happier for it as well.

To walk away from that type of situation with your head held high is by far the best thing for yourself long term. For many it's harder to do than it sounds.

I'd wage many look back in horror at things they said/done during and just after break-ups.

POPPYOSCAR

adindas wrote: »

I agree he is cheating but I would not consider she was cheating. Having a relationship with someone who already has wife is normal nowadays

:eek::eek::eek

POPPYOSCAR

VestanPance wrote: »

To walk away from that type of situation with your head held high is by far the best thing for yourself long term. For many it's harder to do than it sounds.

I'd wage many look back in horror at things they said/done during and just after break-ups.

Yes, I know. I would not say my head was held high, I was very low in every way for a very long time. I never felt angry, only sad and lonely
for a long, long time.

Even when he went on to marry her and have a child I was just so sad,but I felt no sense of satisfaction when they divorced.

VestanPance

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes, I know. I would not say my head was held high, I was very low in every way for a very long time. I never felt angry, only sad and lonely
for a long, long time.

Even when he went on to marry her and have a child I was just so sad,but I felt no sense of satisfaction when they divorced.

By head held high I don't mean being all happy. I just mean not looking back with regret in how you reacted. I think being sad, angry and upset are normal reactions to this type of situation, but long term I think it helps if you can look back and think you handled it with integrity rather than doing things you later regret to add to the sadness, anger and upset of the time.

VestanPance

adindas wrote: »

I agree he is cheating but I would not consider she was cheating. Having a relationship with someone who already has wife is normal nowadays

There are no words!

cheepskate_2

adindas wrote: »

Having a relationship with someone who already has wife is normal nowadays

Going by some of the responses on here , it does seem the norm for a lot of people

POPPYOSCAR

cheepskate wrote: »

Going by some of the responses on here , it does seem the norm for a lot of people

Whilst it would seem there a lot of affairs going on and this subject is of interest to a lot of people, I would not say it is the norm.That to me implies that it is accepted and expected even.