Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

whitewing

Marisco wrote: »

Yes, but maybe the mother hadn't slept with her husband for a long time, so she knew whose child it was! From reading the post (see, I can do that as well ) it sounds like they stayed with their spouses, only because they were the main earners, and did not want to leave them in the soft stuff. And it took 5 and 10 years to sort it out. Anyway, the poster sounds quite happy, and her parents were together for 25 years, so that would qualify for a happy ending!

But maybe not a happy beginning/middle.

Marisco

whitewing wrote: »

But maybe not a happy beginning/middle.

The beginning and the transition is never very happy, but the original question is, can an affair have a happy ending. And in some cases yes, it can. As has been shown by some of us on here.

VestanPance

Marisco wrote: »

Yes, but maybe the mother hadn't slept with her husband for a long time, so she knew whose child it was! From reading the post (see, I can do that as well ) it sounds like they stayed with their spouses, only because they were the main earners, and did not want to leave them in the soft stuff. And it took 5 and 10 years to sort it out. Anyway, the poster sounds quite happy, and her parents were together for 25 years, so that would qualify for a happy ending!

So the husband thought the baby arrived by Stork?

Nothing in that tale spells happy.

Lotus-eater

jayII wrote: »

Cheeky bu@@er! :eek: :rotfl::rotfl:

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jayII

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Hey, purple toe nails, ankle chain......... you said it

I think we're building up a picture of the women we (men) either have to stay clear of, or look out for, depending on the bloke

So I did, I must be a hussy after all. :rotfl:

You think so? To my mind, anyone with a conscience should be able to resist temptation if either they or the other party are in a relationship. It shouldn't matter what type of woman (or man) is tempting them.

No disrespect to anyone here, as I don't know your individual circumstances, just stating my own moral code.

jayII

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Found the perfect one for you. Purple and an ankle chain.

See, she's very cute. Reminds me of my friend.

Ciao for now, I'm meant to be working from home.

Lotus-eater

jayII wrote: »

You think so? To my mind, anyone with a conscience should be able to resist temptation if either they or the other party are in a relationship. It shouldn't matter what type of woman (or man) is tempting them.

No disrespect to anyone here, as I don't know your individual circumstances, just stating my own moral code.

Ah well, you are taking this a bit too seriously, I meant in general, I didn't mean men who are married should look out for this type of woman and stay clear or get close, depending on whether he wants an affair or not.
But you do have a point. (and are dragging the thread kicking and screaming back on topic).

Anyone should be able to resist temptation, but in history it has been shown that men find it harder. I would be able to as long as my marriage is strong, if it is in problems, then tbh I would find it alot harder. But I would still have to make that choice.

whitewing

I have never agreed with affairs, as I've never seen a situation where splitting up first and getting together wouldn't have been better all round. But the thing that has astonished me during this thread is just how incredibly selfish (or maybe I should say single-minded) mistresses are. (Haven't heard from any male mistresses that I can recall; is there a word for male mistresses?)

Marisco

VestanPance wrote: »

So the husband thought the baby arrived by Stork?

Don't be so ridiculous!! She could have found out she was pregnant, and then could have slept with her husband once. Anyway, nowhere does it say that the spouses did not know of the situation. I'm sure some people would be prepared to stay with "cheating" oh's, either for lifestyle, money, kids etc. That is the thing with forums, no one fully knows of others' circumstances, yet many are prepared to be very judgmental, based on the little that is posted here.

Marisco

whitewing wrote: »

I have never agreed with affairs, as I've never seen a situation where splitting up first and getting together wouldn't have been better all round. But the thing that has astonished me during this thread is just how incredibly selfish (or maybe I should say single-minded) mistresses are. (Haven't heard from any male mistresses that I can recall; is there a word for male mistresses?)

And of course, the "poor" man has no say, does he? My mam and dad were happily married for nearly 50 years, as was oh's. Operative word is "happily"!! No one can "steal" another person if they are quite happy where they are!!