Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

FatVonD

purpletoenails wrote: »

I do have empathy with his wife

purpletoenails wrote: »

I understand why people think she needs to know

purpletoenails wrote: »

I can't see how it would be of any benefit to her

Answer honestly, if he has a second mistress and your meeting of the minds (my words, not yours) or whatever you have together was a lie would you not want to know so you could run for the hills?

Pollycat

candygirl wrote: »

Did you resolve anything yesterday, or are you carrying on as you were?:D:D

I think the OP is deciding what 'story' to tell about the 'where do I stand' discussion yesterday.

Anyone else smell troll?

Person_one

I can't get my head around the fact that you can't understand why the wife deserves to know what she's married to. Maybe this lack of sensitivity/empathy is what enables some people to behave this way for two years?

I suppose you're working under the assumption that if nothing materially changes then there's no point in her knowing the truth as it won't make any difference? The thing here though is that you're assuming that he is the only one with the right to make decisions about the future of the marriage based on having all the facts available. No, there are two supposedly equal partners in a marriage, both of them need all the information.

She has as much right to decide that she doesn't want to live with a cheat, or that she wants him to go through counselling, or that she wants to ignore the situation, as he does.

FatVonD

Pollycat wrote: »

Anyone else smell troll?

That thought has occurred to me

Person_one

Pollycat wrote: »

I think the OP is deciding what 'story' to tell about the 'where do I stand' discussion yesterday.

Anyone else smell troll?

You know, I thought I caught a distinct whiff earlier on. Most people don't keep coming back to placidly hear how awful they are, most people aren't anywhere near this obtuse either!

CH27

Pollycat wrote: »

I think the OP is deciding what 'story' to tell about the 'where do I stand' discussion yesterday.

Anyone else smell troll?

If it is a troll then it's twisted.

MrsAtobe

Another one catching the odd whiff (goes off to peer under the bridge...).

purpletoenails

FatVonD wrote: »

That thought has occurred to me

CH27 wrote: »

If it is a troll then it's twisted.

MrsAtobe wrote: »

Another one catching the odd whiff (goes off to peer under the bridge...).

sorry to disappoint you, I'm not a troll, I didn't get in til 1am and I'm at work at the moment, I will tell you what happened yesterday when I get home and am able to write a longer post

poet123

Errata wrote: »

Unless you're living in their airing cupboard you only know what he chooses to tell you and frankly he's not going to tell you they're at it like knives every Friday night is he.

Only on a Friday?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::T

Errata

poet123 wrote: »

Only on a Friday?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::T

Just clutching at staws here