Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

victory

euronorris wrote: »

Yeah, but let's say she only lives a 10 minute walk away, and was planning to leave before 10pm, or with another group of friends. But someone else suggested she stay longer, and then your OH says 'yeah, I'll walk you home, make sure your safe. It's only 10 mins and it's on my way home, it's no problem.'. That sort of thing.

I can imagine that happening, simply because that sort of thing happens quite often when I go out in a group. It's not always a guy offering to walk home of course, sometimes it's a group of ladies deciding to head home together, or someone offering lifts etc.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that, or anything to even worry about there. No wonder chivalry is dying out.

I understand that perfectly but there are far too many scenarios that do not have to involve my OH:D:D

victory

euronorris wrote: »

OH saw an old work colleague from Belgium yesterday. It was actually someone he didn't get on with, part of the reason why he left Belgium, but anyway it was work related so they had to talk. He discovered that since he left BE, this guy started an affair with a younger woman and left his wife for her to go and live with the OW. After a while, he decided the grass wasn't so green over there, so went crawling back to his wife and she took him back but said that if he ever did that again, she would kill herself.

Now, it seems the trust was never regained as she would take him to and from work every day, and sometimes even show up at the office randomly and sit in there with him for a few hours. She suspected he was cheating again, and took her own life. He wasn't, as it turns out, but her trust, self esteem and happiness had been damaged beyond repair it seems.

So, so, so, sad. It seems that only now does this guy truly appreciate the effect his actions had on her. Ultimately, it was her decision to do that, I know, but still. So, so sad.

Very very sad.

POPPYOSCAR

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Umm, are you serious?

You are talking about a sex DVD right?

So your OH would watch and not be bothered? Seems a little odd.

Male mind at work again!!

That never even entered my "pretty little head"!

Lotus-eater

euronorris wrote: »

I don't think there's anything wrong with that, or anything to even worry about there. No wonder chivalry is dying out.

Not here! I'm the perfect gentleman and often put myself in situations where a more non-understanding wife would be very worried and jealous.

euronorris wrote: »

It would bore him to tears. Trying to get him to watch that, would be like trying to get him to watch America's Next Top Model. It just ain't happening, and if it does, it'll be switched off in favour of Mythbusters after about 5 minutes! lol

A man after my own heart. :blushing: Mythbusters is brilliant, any reality show is the pits.

euronorris

It's really sad, but oddly created some common ground between him and my OH as there was a suicide attempt in his family earlier this year, and he's still scared that person might try again and succeed next time.

Lotus-eater

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Male mind at work again!!

That never even entered my "pretty little head"!

Not just any old "male mind", but a deviant one at that :rotfl:

First thing that popped into my head tbh

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Not here! I'm the perfect gentleman and often put myself in situations where a more non-understanding wife would be very worried and jealous.

Yeah, OH is a gent too. We were talking about public transport last night and the scrum to get on sometimes and how some people can be so rude, but not him, he'll always let the ladies on before him (especially if they are pregnant).

One of the many things I love about him.

A man after my own heart. :blushing: Mythbusters is brilliant, any reality show is the pits.

I have seen almost every episode now, and OH definitely has. That's OK, it's Time Team I can't stand. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. I will only put up with that, if he then puts up with an episode of Glee! :rotfl:

gratefulforhelp_2

euronorris did the OW still work with him?

Imagine having that on your conscience (if any) and was she still there working with people who knew?

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Not just any old "male mind", but a deviant one at that :rotfl:

First thing that popped into my head tbh

TBF, I didn't have a clue what NDG was referring to at first and the only thing I could think of was pron too! lol. It didn't fit with what I know about NDG though, so I knew it couldn't be that! :rotfl:

euronorris

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

euronorris did the OW still work with him?

Imagine having that on your conscience (if any) and was she still there working with people who knew?

I honestly don't know, I didn't get that much detail.

It's possible, considering the random visits and the dropping off and picking up of this guy, but that may just be extreme paranoia that settled in afterwards.

Like another poster said earlier, it destroys your faith in your own judgement of others, their actions and words, so you just don't know what to believe after that.