Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

plumpmouse

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Well I thought that was sort of what I wrote and I still don't understand it.
How is showing someone something on a DVD any different to watching it in real life. You still know they've done it.

I think we have to wait for NDG to get an explanation.

I think she was meaning she wouldn't do anything he wasn't happy to see. She didn't mention flirting etc. So the DVD wouldn't show her flirting, kissing etc just having a good time with her friends.

Hopefully she can explain it better than I am trying to

victory

Why would you need a night out DVD anyway, why would her OH want to watch it? Don't get it:D

Lotus-eater

plumpmouse wrote: »

I think she was meaning she wouldn't do anything he wasn't happy to see. She didn't mention flirting etc. So the DVD wouldn't show her flirting, kissing etc just having a good time with her friends.

Hopefully she can explain it better than I am trying to

Oh OK, I get it now

Lotus-eater

victory wrote: »

Why would you need a night out DVD anyway, why would her OH want to watch it? Don't get it:D

I know, the sex DVD answer makes much more sense :rotfl:

victory

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I know, the sex DVD answer makes much more sense :rotfl:

Just don't get why she would want to DVD her night out, surely that is for her to have fun with, not naughty fun but fun why OH would want to see that baffles me:D

plumpmouse

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Oh OK, I get it now

Glad you've got it!

euronorris

victory wrote: »

I am not sure that OH would walk someone home or whether I would want him to, if the lady had arrived at the pub for eg she would have an idea how to get home, ie taxi, a friend, the bus that type of thing, not sure would want OH to involve himself in the ladies 'getting home' situation

Yeah, but let's say she only lives a 10 minute walk away, and was planning to leave before 10pm, or with another group of friends. But someone else suggested she stay longer, and then your OH says 'yeah, I'll walk you home, make sure your safe. It's only 10 mins and it's on my way home, it's no problem.'. That sort of thing.

I can imagine that happening, simply because that sort of thing happens quite often when I go out in a group. It's not always a guy offering to walk home of course, sometimes it's a group of ladies deciding to head home together, or someone offering lifts etc.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that, or anything to even worry about there. No wonder chivalry is dying out.

lostinrates

victory wrote: »

Why would you need a night out DVD anyway, why would her OH want to watch it? Don't get it:D

Well, she did say he'd be bored.

I understood it perfectly as meaning how you guys have now arrived at.

FWIW dh is the only person I'd want watching a dvd of me without him. I behave like a lunatic most of the time.

euronorris

victory wrote: »

Why would you need a night out DVD anyway, why would her OH want to watch it? Don't get it:D

God, if there was ever one of me and my friends, I don't think my OH would bother to watch it.

It would bore him to tears. Trying to get him to watch that, would be like trying to get him to watch America's Next Top Model. It just ain't happening, and if it does, it'll be switched off in favour of Mythbusters after about 5 minutes! lol

ETA: Not that we are model like or anything, it's just it wouldn't hold any interest for him in the same way that ANTM doesn't.

euronorris

OH saw an old work colleague from Belgium yesterday. It was actually someone he didn't get on with, part of the reason why he left Belgium, but anyway it was work related so they had to talk. He discovered that since he left BE, this guy started an affair with a younger woman and left his wife for her to go and live with the OW. After a while, he decided the grass wasn't so green over there, so went crawling back to his wife and she took him back but said that if he ever did that again, she would kill herself.

Now, it seems the trust was never regained as she would take him to and from work every day, and sometimes even show up at the office randomly and sit in there with him for a few hours. She suspected he was cheating again, and took her own life. He wasn't, as it turns out, but her trust, self esteem and happiness had been damaged beyond repair it seems.

So, so, so, sad. It seems that only now does this guy truly appreciate the effect his actions had on her. Ultimately, it was her decision to do that, I know, but still. So, so sad.