Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

neverdespairgirl

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Well I thought that was sort of what I wrote and I still don't understand it.
How is showing someone something on a DVD any different to watching it in real life. You still know they've done it.

I think we have to wait for NDG to get an explanation.

I behave differently in some ways if I'm with a group of friends, or with my sisters, for example, than I would if I were with my OH and he was there too.

But watching how I did behave (say, on a DVD someone made without me knowing) shouldn't ever upset him. Bore or bemuse him, sure.

neverdespairgirl

victory wrote: »

Just don't get why she would want to DVD her night out, surely that is for her to have fun with, not naughty fun but fun why OH would want to see that baffles me:D

I never have DVD-ed a night out, and I'm sure OH has got better things to do if I did video it!

What I'm saying though is that if he were happening to watch, he'd not be upset by my behaviour.

Lotus-eater

I wish my Mrs would tape her nights out, she learnt pole dancing a while ago that would have been a funny watch.

She does do other dancing as well though and I have got DVD's of her doing public performances of that.

Lotus-eater

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I never have DVD-ed a night out, and I'm sure OH has got better things to do if I did video it!

What I'm saying though is that if he were happening to watch, he'd not be upset by my behaviour.

I think you could have got that across in one post, not four :rotfl: but anyway, yes I get it now, thankyou

gratefulforhelp_2

lotus it was quite clear to me what she meant!

Lotus-eater

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

lotus it was quite clear to me what she meant!

One day I hope to be as perceptive as your good self _party_

Probably about the same time as my gender reassignment surgery.

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

One day I hope to be as perceptive as your good self _party_

Probably about the same time as my gender reassignment surgery.

You should look forward to that day. You'll also learn how to multi task :D

purpletoenails

candygirl wrote: »

I couldn't forgive that even.If I thought my OH's bits had been anywhere except where they should be, he would be "bitless";):D:D
Seriously, it would prey on my mind forever if I thought/knew he'd been unfaithful:(:(

victory wrote: »

Yes I can see that but there are extenuating circumstances for that one decision, I am not sure that someone goes out from their marital home and decides before he gets to the pub that he is going to pick up a girl and have a one night stand with her, I am not sure a one night stand is as calculated and cold as a full blown affair.

In my mind a one night stand with some random woman they picked up in a pub is as bad if not worse than a lengthy affair with someone they have real feelings for.

nickyhutch wrote: »

Is that the case, though? Has he said that to PTN?

When I was seeing my OH while he was married, he was under no illusion that I felt I had to be "faithful" to him.

I know he would not like it if I was to start seeing someone else, but he's also not silly enough to think he would have any right to try and stop me from doing so.

purpletoenails

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

It's a bit late to get on your 'igh 'orse after posting about your infidelity on an internet forum.



I think the silly asides have defused a tension that would otherwise result in more rudeness to yourself and others.

And we really don't need any more of that, do we?

I'm not actually being unfaithful to anyone, so its not really to do with my infidelity.

And I'm more than happy for the thread to have silly asides, I'm not totally lacking a sense of humour

Lotus-eater

purpletoenails wrote: »

In my mind a one night stand with some random woman they picked up in a pub is as bad if not worse than a lengthy affair with someone they have real feelings for.

I'm surprised and most people don't seem to agree with you.

Maybe I shouldn't be that surprised, because you just seem to be putting forward reasons why, what you are doing, isn't so bad.