Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

nickyhutch

Bubby wrote: »

I am glad I haven't just eaten, the thought of sleeping with a man that was also merrily sleeping with someone else makes me feel sick. However I know I am worth more than someone who likes to dip into everything else:T

Good for you

purpletoenails

Bubby wrote: »

However I know I am worth more than someone who likes to dip into everything else:T

Another poster with a vivid imagination.

And just out of interest, how would you know if they were?

Kathy535

euronorris wrote: »

Sorry, just to clarify, do you mean that you think it is OK to have an affair if the parties involved feel very deeply about one another?

No, I mean that I wouldn't judge them unless I knew all the facts and aspects beyond doubt. It's easy to say a cheating partner or the 'other person' are wrong but unless you know the circumstances how can you say? It might not be right but maybe there are extenuating circumstances that you don't know about. And maybe not, but either way, I don't feel equipped to tell other people how they should be living their lives when I barely manage to live mine without making a pig's ear of it.

nickyhutch

Bubby wrote: »

I am glad I haven't just eaten, the thought of sleeping with a man that was also merrily sleeping with someone else makes me feel sick. However I know I am worth more than someone who likes to dip into everything else:T

Why is someone who likes a lot of sex (or as you so delicately put it "likes to dip into everything else") not worth as much as you?

VestanPance

Kathy535 wrote: »

No, I mean that I wouldn't judge them unless I knew all the facts and aspects beyond doubt. It's easy to say a cheating partner or the 'other person' are wrong but unless you know the circumstances how can you say?

Aspects mean nothing. It's wrong, simple as. There are no grey areas.

If they are unhappy with the realtionship work to resolve that or break up prior to starting a new one.

poet123

Errata wrote: »

Married men who live and sleep with a wife and have a bit on the side at the same time are both unkind and dishonourable towards the wife. Why a bit on the side would think those kind of men are a great catch demonstrates their extremely low standards.

I think that sums it up. I suspect they delude themselves that they are different, and they are......for now.;)

candygirl

purpletoenails wrote: »

Another poster with a vivid imagination.

And just out of interest, how would you know if they were?[/QUOTE]

You might not know until you caught something:(:(Does your OH's wife know?:D

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

Aspects mean nothing. It's wrong, simple as. There are no grey areas.

If they are unhappy with the realtionship work to resolve that or break up prior to starting a new one.

Sorry, but that is just your opinion. I think there are grey areas, and that argument has been done to death on this thread already. If ony we were all so perfect, life would be oh-so-happy.

VestanPance

nickyhutch wrote: »

Sorry, but that is just your opinion. I think there are grey areas, and that argument has been done to death on this thread already. If ony we were all so perfect, life would be oh-so-happy.

There are no grey areas, only excuses.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

There are no grey areas, only excuses.

In your opinion. You do get that it's an opinion, don't you? Not a universal truth? The fact that some people don't agree must surely indicate that to you?