Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

whitewing

"Other women" - does it honestly not bother any of you that your "partner" is sleeping with his wife? (I refuse to use MM abbreviation - sounds to much like a pet to me). Don't you worry about your own health in that respect?

Bogof_Babe

whitewing wrote: »

"Other women" - does it honestly not bother any of you that your "partner" is sleeping with his wife? (I refuse to use MM abbreviation - sounds to much like a pet to me). Don't you worry about your own health in that respect?

It's probably safer than sleeping with a date who may be single but you don't know anything about him if you've not long met.

Unless the wife is having a fling herself, there's no reason to assume your "MM" is infected, unless you suspect you're not his only bit on the side.

nickyhutch

whitewing wrote: »

"Other women" - does it honestly not bother any of you that your "partner" is sleeping with his wife? (I refuse to use MM abbreviation - sounds to much like a pet to me). Don't you worry about your own health in that respect?

Condoms?.........

Taadaa

I dunno what MM means :rotfl:duh is it married man??

I don't think they ever have happy endings for any parties involved.

If the adulterer is found and can be forgiven, all well and good, but I doubt the relationship would ever be quite as strong as it was before.

If they have genuine feelings for each other, but decide against leaving the person that they committed themselves to for life, then they have to live with not being with the one they love.

And if the feelings are one sided, well then that person gets hurt.

And if they leave their partners, then those left behind are hurt. And it may not turn out that great afterall.

To the OP, unless it is head over heels love on both sides, I doubt he will leave his wife. It's certainly not worth it for any less than that. But someone always gets hurt, although in this case you are hoping, naturally, that it won't be you.

I think it's very easy to be judgemental on this (and many moral issues) when you have not experienced it yourself. Are you married, happy, and never looked at anyone else until unexpectedly someone walked into your life and stole your heart, even though you knew it would end up in heartache, that it was wrong, and you tried to stay away from them......? I don't think many people get married thinking that they will have an affair if they get bored. Sometimes there is a combination of events that just make it so.

candygirl

How could anyone ever trust a bloke who'd flucked around on his wife and kids?I couldn't:o:o

nickyhutch

I trust mine :-) It's easy. I love him, I know he loves me. Simple difference was he didn't love his wife.

Taadaa

candygirl, I don't know, but if there is something worth saving in the relationship, then it must be worth it. It would take a long time I expect. And it would be hard to not hold the adulterer to ransome, or throw it back at him every time. I guess it would also depend on how often it happened, how long it went on for, and who it was with. I doubt anyone would trust a someone who had an affair with a sibling.....

Errata

Married men who live and sleep with a wife and have a bit on the side at the same time are both unkind and dishonourable towards the wife. Why a bit on the side would think those kind of men are a great catch demonstrates their extremely low standards.

VestanPance

candygirl wrote: »

How could anyone ever trust a bloke who'd flucked around on his wife and kids?I couldn't:o:o

Anyone who does is a fool.

Putting trust in anyone who even thinks there are reasons to have an affair shouldn't be trusted as far as you could throw them.

Bubby

nickyhutch wrote: »

Condoms?.........

I am glad I haven't just eaten, the thought of sleeping with a man that was also merrily sleeping with someone else makes me feel sick. However I know I am worth more than someone who likes to dip into everything else:T