Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh, congratulations. Are you ''eloping'' have you decided? I don't deserve dh though, not the otherway round. He's only moderately into knickers. He does have a weird thing for roll neck fluffy sweaters though. I think he likes to know that ''the assets'' are being kept warm

Thankyou, no we've decided on a very very small wedding, getting married on Friday.

Roll neck fluffy sweaters huh? Well...... we all like different things :rotfl:

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Thankyou, no we've decided on a very very small wedding, getting married on Friday.

Roll neck fluffy sweaters huh? Well...... we all like different things :rotfl:

More congratulations. I hope it goes well.


Yes....don't get me wrong, he likes knickers...he just doesn't go gaga over them.....and I don't wear jumpers in the bedroom, but he's always keen for me to buy them

harrys_nan

Well PTN, just caught up again with this thread.

I'm sorry but I have lost any good feelings I felt for you, all I can say now is you get what you deserve.
Nothing is hard if you put your mind to it and also put some thought into how his family will feel.

purpletoenails

Thank you everyone for your comments, I did fully expect these when I posted last night, and understand why people feel that way.

I have taken notice of and appreciated everything people have said over the last couple of months. My mindset has definitely altered a lot, I am more able to see things as what they are, instead of what I'd imagined them to be.

It is going to be hard for me to walk away (as I have just found out!) but I know that ultimately I will have to, not because he doesn't love me, I genuinely believe he does, but because at the moment he cannot give me everything that I want and need.

Emmzi

PTN, what do you think love is?

For me, it is when I want to put someone else's needs ahead of my own. I think your way of experiencing love is different to mine.

Pollycat

purpletoenails wrote: »

It is going to be hard for me to walk away (as I have just found out!) but I know that ultimately I will have to, not because he doesn't love me, I genuinely believe he does, but because at the moment he cannot give me everything that I want and need.

Given what you say, I can't understand why you are still seeing him.

Surely it's just making things worse for both of you.

Or do you still harbour that tiny spark of hope that he will leave his wife?

Errata

PTN - as I posted right at the start of this thread, I see more of my window cleaner than you do of Mr Lothario. He may say he loves you, but he certainly doesn't show it. He has you wrapped round his little finger, dancing to his tune, showing you no respect, never mind love, and he doesn't respect his wife either.
Not much of a catch, is he. Throw him back.

POPPYOSCAR

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I'll stick with "cautiously optimistic" for the moment. Thanks for asking .

That is good to hear.

Really hope all goes well.

purpletoenails

Emmzi wrote: »

PTN, what do you think love is?

For me, it is when I want to put someone else's needs ahead of my own. I think your way of experiencing love is different to mine.

I don't think it's always practical or desirable to put someone elses needs before your own but it is certainly one aspect of loving someone.

Pollycat wrote: »

Given what you say, I can't understand why you are still seeing him.

Surely it's just making things worse for both of you.

Or do you still harbour that tiny spark of hope that he will leave his wife?

I'm still seeing him because the thought of not seeing him isn't a pleasant one. He is kind and loving, we make each other feel great, make each other happy, and letting go of that is proving harder than I thought it would be.

I do think he will leave his wife but I don't think it will be anytime soon, certainly at least for a couple of years.

Emmzi

well.. I cannot see this thread going well from this point on PTN. I know I am going to get frustrated with you. So I shall wish you luck and bow out.