Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

POPPYOSCAR

Purpletoenails you appear to have stopped this thread in its tracks!!!!!:)

bonnie_bumpkins

purpletoenails wrote: »

What do you expect me to to do? Arrive to meet him in a short skirt and no knickers and drag him down the nearest dark alley for a quick knee trembler?

*replaces underwear, shuts front door and wraps blanket around legs*

Well that's my Saturday night plans ruined

Marisco

purpletoenails wrote: »

What do you expect me to to do? Arrive to meet him in a short skirt and no knickers and drag him down the nearest dark alley for a quick knee trembler?

*Thinks back fondly* Ah happy days:D

POPPYOSCAR

bonnie_bumpkins wrote: »

*replaces underwear, shuts front door and wraps blanket around legs*

Well that's my Saturday night plans ruined

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

purpletoenails

bonnie_bumpkins wrote: »

*replaces underwear, shuts front door and wraps blanket around legs*

Well that's my Saturday night plans ruined

Sorry about that :rotfl:

mountainofdebt

purpletoenails wrote: »

I appreciate how much he would have to give up and this is why I would not be surprised in the least if he didn't leave. If I moved to be with him I would have to leave my job, my home, my friends and my extended family who all live close by to move to a very large city where I'd know no one but him.

A politican's answer.

You've admitted that you wouldn't do this for at least two years so any move that you made would be on your terms.

What would you, at this moment in time be sacrifing, if he decided it was you he wanted to be with?

purpletoenails

mountainofdebt wrote: »

A politican's answer.

You've admitted that you wouldn't do this for at least two years so any move that you made would be on your terms.

What would you, at this moment in time be sacrifing, if he decided it was you he wanted to be with?

Do I need to be sacrificing anything? He knows I wouldn't move at the moment, and I doubt he will be basing any decision he makes solely on that fact. When we were chatting the other day going round in circles he even said that he'd hardly see me any more than he does now because of the distance (initially anyway)

mountainofdebt

purpletoenails wrote: »

Do I need to be sacrificing anything? He knows I wouldn't move at the moment, and I doubt he will be basing any decision he makes solely on that fact. When we were chatting the other day going round in circles he even said that he'd hardly see me any more than he does now because of the distance (initially anyway)

But doesn't that tell you that he's thinking so what do I get out of leaving my wife now, this minute? Doesn't that tell you he's weighing up whether you're worth 2 years of living in a flat, paying maintenance etc when really he doesn't have to ?


Which just adds weigh to the thought that reckons he'll say he'll leave his wife but it will have to be when you're willing to join him

And do you know what I think you would wait for him after deciding that if you've waited 2+ years whats another 2.

purpletoenails

mountainofdebt wrote: »

But doesn't that tell you that he's thinking so what do I get out of leaving my wife now, this minute? Doesn't that tell you he's weighing up whether you're worth 2 years of living in a flat, paying maintenance etc when really he doesn't have to ?


.

Yes you're probably right!

Lunar_Eclipse

Unless his conscience is starting to eat away at him to the point where he feels ill with guilt whenever he has contact with his wife (doubtful after 2 years IMO), logic is telling me there is no benefit to him leaving his wife now.

If you really want to be with him, then I think you need to come up with a better plan for making it happen. Either you figure out how you could be together now (which will involve sacrifice on all sides) or you discuss a future plan for how and when this could happen, in say 2 years time. In his shoes, would you leave his wife and family? A lovesick teenager would for sure, but beyond that, it doesn't make any sense.

If you're serious about a long term relationship with him, I'm struggling to understand why you haven't offered to meet him (at least) halfway. You need to make it easy for him to leave! Although morally I'm not happy about writing that.