Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Bogof_Babe

purpletoenails wrote: »

Yes really!!

And did you also see that we'd only been to bed together half a dozen times in the last year?

Either he doesn't have much of a sex drive, or he's getting what he needs at home. Which do you think?

purpletoenails

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Either he doesn't have much of a sex drive, or he's getting what he needs at home. Which do you think?

I think we haven't had the opportunity, and if we had, it would have been more (sorry if that offends, just being honest)

Bogof_Babe

purpletoenails wrote: »

I think we haven't had the opportunity, and if we had, it would have been more (sorry if that offends, just being honest)

It all sounds very sweet actually. I can picture the two of you (well obviously I don't know what you look like) sitting on a park bench feeding the ducks when you have your "dates".

willow_loulou

PTN have you spoken to him at all since your heart to heart?

purpletoenails

mountainofdebt wrote: »

(btw as you are not prepared to move for the next two years for the sake of your daughter, and she is a year younger than his - then doesn't that make this year an exam year for her? So you would be happy for him to leave home, causing the distruption to his daughter's life / schooling etc but aren't willing to do the same to your daughter? Why isn't what's sauce for the goose good for the gander?)

Well I suppose that if he left, his daughter wouldn't be moving 100 odd miles away to a new house and new school and trying to make new friends. She would still be able to see him and all her extended family whenever she wanted to. But you are correct in what you are saying, it is a very big ask.

poet123

purpletoenails wrote: »

Yes really!!

And did you also see that we'd only been to bed together half a dozen times in the last year?

And you really believe that a normal healthy male is not supplementing that level of sexual interaction elsewhere? Like with his wife?

Lotus-eater

purpletoenails wrote: »

I'm not 'the little mistress' - I don't just turn up in a hotel room in stockings and suspenders once a month,

Well there's your problem :rotfl:


I hope it all works out for someone here, atm it seems to be heading for disaster for everyone. I'm having trouble reading this now, heading downhill rapidly.
I'd advise you not to post any more, but deal with it yourself and be honest with yourself about it, you still aren't being.

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I'd advise you not to post any more, but deal with it yourself and be honest with yourself about it, you still aren't being.

I'm with this. Although its incredibly addictive and interesting reading about what's happening I can't help thinking that how it is now muct be both painful and not terribly helpful to you...or is it still?

purpletoenails

willow_loulou wrote: »

PTN have you spoken to him at all since your heart to heart?

We've just had a few 5 min chats thats all, I will speak to him Monday properly.

poet123 wrote: »

And you really believe that a normal healthy male is not supplementing that level of sexual interaction elsewhere? Like with his wife?

Well if thats the case then it kind of invalidates any arguments people might be making that hes using me for sex.

lostinrates wrote: »

I'm with this. Although its incredibly addictive and interesting reading about what's happening I can't help thinking that how it is now muct be both painful and not terribly helpful to you...or is it still?

Some posts are very helpful, some not so helpful

harrys_nan

Ptn, I agree with lotus-eater re not posting anymore, only though for your sake. You really do not need anymore comments, I have never walked in your shoes, but I can imagine the hurt and upset your going through.I do know what it's like to love someone.
All the very best for the future