Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

victory

PPT this has absolutely no relevanvce to the question of the thread but my best mate's husband committed suicide last week, so in view of that I am telling yo uto grab happiness while you can, sure you may have to cause unhappiness along the way but make your happiness paramout, make yourself number one because you never know what is going to happen, what is around the corner.

Make yourself be appreciated, be heard, come first, be vocal, don't settle, stand up and be counted, PPT you deserve nothing less;)

Bogof_Babe

Let's hope PTN's bloke's wife doesn't feel driven to suicide when she finds out then .

victory

Oh crumbs I never meant anything like that, I just meant seize the moment as life can be short:D

lostinrates

victory wrote: »

Oh crumbs I never meant anything like that, I just meant seize the moment as life can be short:D

this is true...life is short. But IMO living soley by a seize the moment lifestyle isn't always the best remdy for happiness, for you or the people you love. I really am NOT going to put that theory bit by bit into your friend's tragic situation this week because I think that it would be unnecessary and not helpful. :)

victory

Thanks lostin;)

purpletoenails

lostinrates wrote: »

You'll have to enjoy the very special companionship of...yourself. (BTW...this is one of the reasons this isn't fair on you or the wife.).


Alone doesn't mean unpromising btw. Tonight my dh is going out without me for a short while, which is really v. rare at weekends (I'm invited but tonight I'm not able to walk v. well so don't want to go) but I'm going to put foot cream on and the radio and have a good sing and later watch a film (but he might be back by then). Watching films alone is good as you don't have to rewind to settle disagareements about the mumurred line which you think said one thing and he thinks said another:D

Have a nice evening.

Thank you, you too I think I shall go and do my weekly shop and splash out on a bottle of wine and some chocolate for when I get back.

victory wrote: »

PPT this has absolutely no relevanvce to the question of the thread but my best mate's husband committed suicide last week, so in view of that I am telling yo uto grab happiness while you can, sure you may have to cause unhappiness along the way but make your happiness paramout, make yourself number one because you never know what is going to happen, what is around the corner.

Make yourself be appreciated, be heard, come first, be vocal, don't settle, stand up and be counted, PPT you deserve nothing less;)

I'm so sorry to hear about your friends husband

I think I need to start putting myself and my happiness first. I've let things drift along for far too long.

victory

All I was saying about that situation is don't drift, act now, now is the present, you have to act now;):D

Errata

purpletoenails wrote: »

I think I need to start putting myself and my happiness first. I've let things drift along for far too long.

I always think the Buddha summed things up in his teaching that we are solely and entirely responsible for our own life.

Pollycat

purpletoenails wrote: »

I think I need to start putting myself and my happiness first. I've let things drift along for far too long.

PTN, I think this is a big step forward for you and I'd guess that you've gradually come to be feeling like this partly as a result of 'talking' about the situation you're in to lots of people you don't know and reading their opinions.

I doubt you'd have been saying the same thing if you'd have spent the last month or so talking things over with say, your best friend as you wouldn't have got the range of advice (not to mention the odd bit of abuse) that you've had on here.

purpletoenails

Pollycat wrote: »

PTN, I think this is a big step forward for you and I'd guess that you've gradually come to be feeling like this partly as a result of 'talking' about the situation you're in to lots of people you don't know and reading their opinions.

I doubt you'd have been saying the same thing if you'd have spent the last month or so talking things over with say, your best friend as you wouldn't have got the range of advice (not to mention the odd bit of abuse) that you've had on here.

Yes I think you're right, and about 90% of responses have been useful in some way or other. I probably would have gone on for quite some time getting more and more dissatisfied with what was going on.

What I've never been in doubt of, and I'm still not, is that he does love me. BUT he's never going to either sort his marriage out so that it makes him happy, or leave his marriage, while I'm content to let things carry on as they are.