Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

1echidna

euronorris wrote: »

If you are referring to the 'always better' comment, I already responded as follows:

"You're just being pedantic now. Of course there are certain people, and certain situations, in which one should hold back their feelings. But I wasn't talking about it in that context, I was talking about it in the context of this thread and in general, not professionals, and I think you knew that."

I agree, there are some people who should hold back. I should have been clearer, but I thought that the above was clarification enough.

If you are referring to how a counsellor would start to address an issue, then I can only go by my experience with one as I am not a trained counsellor myself. Perhaps your experience has been different? But you are not a trained counsellor yourself are you? So how you can deem me to be wrong based on your experience alone, I do not know.

From my point of view enough said, others can add their point of view if they wish.

Bogof_Babe

I wonder why this thread hasn't been moved to DT. It could be good for another 75 pages there! It isn't really about moneysaving either, so I'm surprised no-one has booted it over there yet.

purpletoenails

After spending the last couple of days getting myself tied up in knots trying to decide what to do, and wondering what might happen today, I have had to cancel my visit due to my daughter being up half the night poorly. I probably could have left her (she's 16) but I think she might need to go to the doctors later, so wanted to stay around just in case (as opposed to 2 hours away)

Am feeling thoroughly sick and deflated as it will be 3 or 4 weeks now before I get another opportunity to see him and discuss things

euronorris

Sorry to hear that PTN. It's awful when you are just waiting and waiting.

Why does it have to another 3 or 4 weeks? Is there not another time inbetween where you can meet up and talk?

Did you decide what you will do if he says he can't leave yet, but still wants to see you?

janninew

purpletoenails wrote: »

After spending the last couple of days getting myself tied up in knots trying to decide what to do, and wondering what might happen today, I have had to cancel my visit due to my daughter being up half the night poorly. I probably could have left her (she's 16) but I think she might need to go to the doctors later, so wanted to stay around just in case (as opposed to 2 hours away)

Am feeling thoroughly sick and deflated as it will be 3 or 4 weeks now before I get another opportunity to see him and discuss things

That's strange I was just thinking about you this morning Purple and wondered when you would be meeting up with him. I hope your Daughter gets better soon and you get an earlier opportunity to get things sorted.

CH27

purpletoenails wrote: »

After spending the last couple of days getting myself tied up in knots trying to decide what to do, and wondering what might happen today, I have had to cancel my visit due to my daughter being up half the night poorly. I probably could have left her (she's 16) but I think she might need to go to the doctors later, so wanted to stay around just in case (as opposed to 2 hours away)

Am feeling thoroughly sick and deflated as it will be 3 or 4 weeks now before I get another opportunity to see him and discuss things

Hope your daughter is better soon hun.

purpletoenails

He's off on his hols tomorrow for 2 1/2 weeks, and then the week he's back I'm off work and made plans to do some things with my children and we have a big birthday in the family (and of course gcse results that week too) so I can't really go gallivanting off. So it will be the beginning of September before we have the opportunity to meet up again!

purpletoenails

euronorris wrote: »

Did you decide what you will do if he says he can't leave yet, but still wants to see you?

I was hoping that I would be strong enough to bid him a very fond farewell and wish him all the best for the future. However, things may not quite have worked out like that once I was actually in his company!

Bogof_Babe

Have to say, as passionate affairs go it's a bit of a damp squib isn't it? You both have too much baggage to make a go of it.

Hope your daughter recovers soon, and I'm glad you have your priorities right!

Jerryjerryjerry

I've heard of and known some people who have split with their partners for the "other woman/man". But as soon as they are free to be together, the spark/magic/sense of excitement disappears almost immediately.

In my opinion, this man wont leave his wife for you. If he does, he will stay with you for a bit and then move onto someone new.