Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

euronorris

1echidna wrote: »

It might, given that somebody may be prepared to pay good money for a solution to their problems by engaging the services of a psychologist or counsellor. If this wasn't helping they would stop the consultations. OP has found a lot of comments here unhelpful and I suggest wouldn't be paying for them or engaging further with a therapist who practised in a similar way.

And? So then the OP is free to stop posting and reading.

euronorris

1echidna wrote: »

Just pointing out you are wrong, or is that not permitted?

Huh? About what exactly?

Or am I just wrong in your opinion?

You are permitted to point anything you wish, but if you are going to suggest that I am wrong, I would appreciate some evidence to support it. Otherwise, it's a bit pointless posting that at all. :rotfl:

gratefulforhelp_2

1echidna wrote: »

If you didn't call it 'adultery' you might not prejudge the results and then you might see mitigating factors and even positive outcomes on occasions.

It is the correct term, still used in law.

1echidna wrote: »

Yes but an archaic term for those living in the past. You just try to line this with emotion. I don't accept it, my response is two fingers to you, and I carry on my merry way. What are you going to do about it?

It is a term in current use.

stargazer59 wrote: »

To someone who was using their Christian beliefs to make their point, or do Christians get to cherry pick the bits of their religion when they condemn other peoples behaviour?

Many of us are guilty of some pick and mix when it comes to religion.

euronorris does one have to be an alcoholic to go in the bar??

euronorris

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

euronorris does one have to be an alcoholic to go in the bar??

No, of course not!

You can drink moderately

Or, we have a selection of teas, coffees, juices and soft drinks available

1echidna

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

It is the correct term, still used in law.

Doesn't make it le mot juste

It is a term in current use.

Doesn't make it le mot juste



Many of us are guilty of some pick and mix when it comes to religion.

euronorris does one have to be an alcoholic to go in the bar??

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1echidna

euronorris wrote: »

And? So then the OP is free to stop posting and reading.

That is being friendly to fellow MSEs!!!

1echidna

euronorris wrote: »

Huh? About what exactly?

Or am I just wrong in your opinion?

You are permitted to point anything you wish, but if you are going to suggest that I am wrong, I would appreciate some evidence to support it. Otherwise, it's a bit pointless posting that at all. :rotfl:

I'm not into repetition or going round in circles, unlike some.

euronorris

1echidna wrote: »

That is being friendly to fellow MSEs!!!

You are expecting waaayyyyy too much from people who are NOT counsellors.

This is a public forum, and in an ideal world, the OP would only receive nice and helpful posts. But, this is not an ideal world.

So, if she feels that she is not getting good advice, or that the posts are nasty, she is free to stop reading them.

I don't know what else you want? For everyone else to suddenly change? It's not going to happen and you will make yourself miserable trying.

gratefulforhelp_2

euronorris wrote: »

No, of course not!
You can drink moderately

Excellent, mine's a dry white wine, thanks;)

euronorris

1echidna wrote: »

I'm not into repetition or going round in circles, unlike some.

If you are referring to the 'always better' comment, I already responded as follows:

"You're just being pedantic now. Of course there are certain people, and certain situations, in which one should hold back their feelings. But I wasn't talking about it in that context, I was talking about it in the context of this thread and in general, not professionals, and I think you knew that."

I agree, there are some people who should hold back. I should have been clearer, but I thought that the above was clarification enough.

If you are referring to how a counsellor would start to address an issue, then I can only go by my experience with one as I am not a trained counsellor myself. Perhaps your experience has been different? But you are not a trained counsellor yourself are you? So how you can deem me to be wrong based on your experience alone, I do not know.