Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

wageslave

nickyhutch wrote: »

Right. That bad behaviour of mine is over, and has been for 7 years. I'm not doing it any more. Everyone involved has moved on so what gives you, a stranger, the right to harangue me about it now? Yes, it was wrong. Yes, it was bad behaviour. It is not persistent. Do I have to sit on the naughty step forever?

No, of course you don't.

But NDG has the right to her opinion just as you had the right to be less than you could be

I don't think she is harangueing you. Just asking you hard questions

wageslave

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

ETA: this was posted as a genuine pondering (have you ever wondered the same?), not particularly personal really.

Every day. Especially now she suspects her husband is unfaithful

POPPYOSCAR

wageslave wrote: »

Every day. Especially now she suspects her husband is unfaithful

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magical_music

my partner is brain dead, after 21 years has within 3 months ran off with his best friends partner.

this time next year I will be sending the slap8er a thank you card for taking him off my hands!

nickyhutch

wageslave wrote: »

Every day. Especially now she suspects her husband is unfaithful

What the hell are you on about?

euronorris

VestanPance wrote: »

I'm sorted. I'm single from here on in. I'm not daft enough to put faith in anyone else ever again.

That's really sad. I hope you can find a way through the pain and hurt and onto a happy and fulfilling relationship.

However, it is not OK to attack Nicky (or anyone else) in the way you have.

Bogof_Babe

euronorris wrote: »

That's really sad. I hope you can find a way through the pain and hurt and onto a happy and fulfilling relationship.

However, it is not OK to attack Nicky (or anyone else) in the way you have.

I'd call it "challenged" rather than attacked. Nicky is giving as good as she gets, and can hit 'Report' if she feels a line has been overstepped. She strikes me as being more than capable of retaliating to the points put to her.

Perhaps those of us betrayal has happened to have a different viewpoint to those who are able to see things from both sides. I used to be of the "all's fair in love and war" mindset, because infidelity hadn't affected me directly. From the other side of the abyss things seem a lot more black and white.

euronorris

Comments such as 'Coming from a serial adulterer I'll take that as a compliment.' are not challenging. They are dowright rude, unnecessary and do not bring anything other than nastiness to the conversation. That is what I was referring to.

I too have been cheated on, and clearly have a different viewpoint to Nicky (and others) about this, but we do not need to resort to such nastiness to make a point.

And, of course, I know Nicky can look out for herself, and report things if she feels necessary, but I can also voice my opinion on what I believe to be rude and express a wish for it to not happen again.

POPPYOSCAR

euronorris wrote: »

Comments such as 'Coming from a serial adulterer I'll take that as a compliment.' are not challenging. They are dowright rude, unnecessary and do not bring anything other than nastiness to the conversation. That is what I was referring to.

I too have been cheated on, and clearly have a different viewpoint to Nicky (and others) about this, but we do not need to resort to such nastiness to make a point.

And, of course, I know Nicky can look out for herself, and report things if she feels necessary, but I can also view my opinion on what I believe to be rude and express a wish for it to not happen again.

Well said.

It just turns the thread into an argument and what good does that do anyone.

euronorris

It doesn't help any of us to understand each other. So sometimes it's best for us to take a step back and/or walk away to calm down a bit.

Tea and biscuits anyone?