Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

neverdespairgirl

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Well yes, obviously life expectancy is an average. However, let's say we take the middle ages where a third of all people died under the age of 1. It was still a case that if you managed to make it past that you'd be dying around the 50-55yr mark....so over 20 years earlier than today.

I don't find it terribly realistic that, say, a couple meeting and marrying at the age of 22 will still be together and have never strayed by the time they get to 72.

I think that's a rather sad point of view - and I mean sad in the sense of the opposite of happy.

gettingbackontrack

"Yes I know deceit is wrong, and so does he, and we both feel guilty about what has happened. Neither of us are uncaring or unfeeling, even though you'll find that very hard to believe I'm sure!"

Er, this isn't something that "happened" - it's happening and you could put a stop to at at any time. Right now, yes, right now, if you wanted to. But you don't feel guilty enough for that.
I haven't seen any evidence of caring or feeling - apart from for yourselves.....

catkins

nickyhutch wrote: »

That's great for you and your family, and for everyone else who feels that way. But we don't all feel that way!

No, that's why so many people have affairs, so many people do not work at their marriages, so many people have 2, 3, 4 or more marriages, so many children have their lives upset

catkins

erdd2 wrote: »

Nothing is more sacred than a persons health and well being. If one spouses conduct is abusive, be it mental, sexual, financial, spiritual, physical it affects the health and well being of the other.

Today the suffering party has the choice to be free from abuse, unfortunately that path is not made easy by systems grounded in old fashioned beliefs and values. I repeat, nothing is more sacred than ones health.

and yes not all fall into that category before the snipers come out

I am obviously not talking about if one partner is abusive or if the marriage is unhappy and I think you knew that

erdd2

catkins wrote: »

I am obviously not talking about if one partner is abusive or if the marriage is unhappy and I think you knew that

You know how I think yet you do not know what I type:think:

purpletoenails

gettingbackontrack wrote: »

"Yes I know deceit is wrong, and so does he, and we both feel guilty about what has happened. Neither of us are uncaring or unfeeling, even though you'll find that very hard to believe I'm sure!"

Er, this isn't something that "happened" - it's happening and you could put a stop to at at any time. Right now, yes, right now, if you wanted to. But you don't feel guilty enough for that.
I haven't seen any evidence of caring or feeling - apart from for yourselves.....

Okay, if it makes you feel happier - I chose to let it happen.

And as for not seeing any evidence of caring or feeling, well I'm afraid, that as you know nothing of how I conduct my life, other than what's on this thread, you'll just have to take my word for it (or not)

CH27

purpletoenails wrote: »

Okay, if it makes you feel happier - I chose to let it happen.

And as for not seeing any evidence of caring or feeling, well I'm afraid, that as you know nothing of how I conduct my life, other than what's on this thread, you'll just have to take my word for it (or not)

But by letting the affair continue you clearly spell out your lack of care, remorse & fairness.
That speaks volumes about you.

neverdespairgirl

purpletoenails wrote: »

Okay, if it makes you feel happier - I chose to let it happen.

Once again, you use the passive. You do not choose to let it happen. you choose to do it. Take repsonsibility for your own behaviour.

1echidna

CH27 wrote: »

But by letting the affair continue you clearly spell out your lack of care, remorse & fairness.
That speaks volumes about you.

And your wish to be judgemental says oodles about you :rotfl:

CH27

1echidna wrote: »

And your wish to be judgemental says oodles about you :rotfl:

That's fine. I'd far rather be judgemental than without morals.