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Elle7

Please don't let the thread die while you still need it...it's helpful to me, at the very least, and lots more people I suspect.

I can't really collect my thoughts well enough to comment at the moment...I've got dreadful abdominal pain and I think I've got a kidney stone, so staying awake is just about all I can manage. I'll comment later though, promise

coin_operated_girl

ouch, that sounds so painful Hope you feel better soon

Percy1983

Maybe this thread should never die, sorry to say but there is always a heart breaking somewhere.

AMIDAFT

aw op sweetheart men will never agree to playing away they will always say no and the pattern hes displayed shows signs of guilt hun, it taken my other half 3 years to admit he was cheating n he said noo 100's of times so please read bigger picture huni or take him on jeremy kyle for lie detctor he may confess then lol xx just be happy huni x

coin_operated_girl

Well maybe but i still don't think he is capable of doing such a thing. The look on his face when we broke up said more to me than what he did. But in any case, i've got an appointment to get myself tested in a couple of hours and i have decided i dont want him back (whether he did cheat or not).

Jerryjerryjerry

Dear OP.

I know you love him and I know what that is like. I know how hard it is to let go of someone you really love. The pain is only known to those who have suffered such heartbreak.

But my advice is this:

Only allow yourself to marry someone who would give up the throne of England for you (if he were king). I hope you get my drift. If he is unsure.. then you must go away and get on with your life. If he comes back, make him beg to take you.

If you don't have the self respect to do this, then at least pretend. Don't answer his calls for a couple of weeks and go out with your friends. If you feel he's worth one last chance, then allow him to contact you after two weeks and see what he has to say.. then weight it up.

No woman should marry a man who is slightly unsure. Make sure he wants you and nobody/nothing else. If he is showing doubt, let go and move on. Harsh, but you'll realise how good this advice is one day.

x

Percy1983

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

i have decided i dont want him back (whether he did cheat or not).

I am glad you have got to that point, it really does show great strength.

coin_operated_girl

Percy1983 wrote: »

I am glad you have got to that point, it really does show great strength.

Thanks i think its the right thing to do. Its so scary being on my own...ok i'm seeing someone but i still consider myself on my own for now anyway as its very early days. I feel like i am having to start my life all over again.

blue_suzy

hi all,so glad this thread isn't closed,i did a stupid thing Sunday night and ended up in hospital until Tuesday, couldn't cope anymore i have been through a breast cancer scare and when i got the all clear he left,i have been waiting to talk to him,but he has rented his own place and told me to leave it he cant be arsed talking to me i am in the marital home and cant afford to stay here my good friend has said i can live with her and when i told him this he thinks i should stay put until it sell we have just reduced by another 10,000,i am trying to re home my 2 cats and im going on holiday3 weeks today,it was our holiday i booked in febuary and in April he said he couldn't get time off work [he is self employed]and to go with my daughter instead.at this moment he says he doesnt want anything from me and will give me the money back from the sale of the house,i am waiting to talk to a solicitor,and i am going to counselling,sorry about the ramble,he said he would come and talk to me last sunday and when he arrived so did all these other people,he had sold lots of tools on ebay and they were coming to collect them he then said have to go talk later thats what tipped me over.

coin_operated_girl

I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you are feeling better now- its great that you are going to go to counselling. I must admit i'm not in a great place right now either, i feel pretty alone and everything seems so daunting. I'm just about managing to hold it together though. Its really nice of your friend to offer to let you stay with her. Do what YOU want to do. Don't stay in the house if you don't want to. It must be upsetting going on holiday knowing that you had intended on going with him but try to forget about it and enjoy spending some time with your daughter. It will be good to get away for a bit.

If you start to feel really down please try and ring someone you know or, failing that, give the Samaritans a call.

Take care