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picnmix

Lostinrates I couldn't agree more, I am in my 30s and some of my most supportive and caring friends in my life have an age span right up in to 70s. We have a monthly meet up and every decade from 30s upwards is covered to 70s. These friends have become like a family, we laugh, cry, and support each other through all sorts of highs and some very very lows. I would feel lost without them. We may not like the same music, TV, fashion but they are a joy to have in my life, my husbands and my childrens and it is a joy to share in thiers.

Age is not important if you find true friends.

coin_operated_girl

I hope i didn't offend you by my comments, lostinrates. Particularly as you have been so kind and helpful to me. You do make a fair point. I guess for me, because i can be quite shy, i find it even harder to talk to people of a different age to me (older or younger), because i panic a bit and think "argh, what the hell can i talk to them about?!" than i do to talk to people of my own age.

I suppose the groups i went along to were just like a general meetup things rather than anything to do with a particular hobby which also made it harder, because at least if i joined a group to do with a hobby i know we would have a shared interest we could talk about.

Its funny though that your friend goes to weekly meals with people whose ages are each a decade apart, that sounds like it would be great fun

Elle7

Thank you, that's a good point. I will try not to be too hung up on people's age...I just wonder if older people would be at all interested in me. I'm not inspirational or interesting, so it seems unlikely! A book club would be amazing, I love to read.

Eastenders isn't tragic! Claim it back as something you like to do, then tell me what happens, I've missed it for a while!

I love Birmingham, it's an amazing place! Which uni did you go too?

babymoo

Elle7 wrote: »

I'm not inspirational or interesting, so it seems unlikely!

I beg to differ and that is your first problem sweetie, no confidence! Believe in yourself

lostinrates

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

I hope i didn't offend you by my comments, lostinrates. Particularly as you have been so kind and helpful to me. You do make a fair point. I guess for me, because i can be quite shy, i find it even harder to talk to people of a different age to me (older or younger), because i panic a bit and think "argh, what the hell can i talk to them about?!" than i do to talk to people of my own age.

Not at all offended! Just trying to put a different perspective on it for you! And perhaps suggest that you have revealed to yourself anothe area for growth and development and increase life fulfilment above!

coin_operated_girl

Elle7 wrote: »

Thank you, that's a good point. I will try not to be too hung up on people's age...I just wonder if older people would be at all interested in me. I'm not inspirational or interesting, so it seems unlikely! A book club would be amazing, I love to read.

Eastenders isn't tragic! Claim it back as something you like to do, then tell me what happens, I've missed it for a while!

I love Birmingham, it's an amazing place! Which uni did you go too?

Sounds, like me, you suffer from confident issues. I think not working really does that to you and you sort of feel like you have nothing to talk about.

I went to The University of Birmingham and did a completely pointless degree (philosophy) because i had no idea at that age what i wanted to do from life. At the end of the degree i decided i wanted to become a counselling psychologist so i am currently studying towards a second degree in psychology with the Open Uni. Thats what i get for being so indecisive and not putting as much thought and effort in to figuring out what i want and then working it all out too little too late...story of my life :rotfl:

Do you mind me asking, do you think you will ever be able to work again? Even if its just a few hours a week? (feel free to not answer).

So something positive has come out of me sitting alone on my computer tonight. I have being saying for about a year that i wanted to try sky diving. I made excuses not to do it and told myself i cant because of my health (when in reality, the worse thing that will happen is that i will fall asleep lol- which i think is pretty unlikely). Anyway, i asked on facebook if anyone fancies trying it with me and now me and two friends (one who i havent seen since i was 16) are planning to go in August!

lostinrates

Elle7 wrote: »

Thank you, that's a good point. I will try not to be too hung up on people's age...I just wonder if older people would be at all interested in me. I'm not inspirational or interesting, so it seems unlikely! A book club would be amazing, I love to read.
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There is a book club in my village, but the books selected aren't for me. I'm considering trying to find one in a local bigger town, both for social contact and also for the reading challenge of ''books I wouldn't choose but could benefit from''

Not all older people are inspirational either, but you can become as interesting as you want to be. We place more limits on ourselves than life does. Those of us with long term illness have a lot of disadvantages, but lack of time often isn't one of them.

MrsAtobe

Don't take this the wrong way, coin operated girl, but the problem of what to talk about with older people dissappears as you grow older. One of the most amazing and interesting people I know is my brother in law's mum, whose approaching her nineties. Just think, when she grew up there was no electricity in her home, and it blows my mind thinking about the changes that she has seen in her life. She's raised two healthy, successful and happy children, and there's not a lot she hasn't seen. She's seen family members succumb to alcohol and drug addicition, helped to bring up family members who have lost their mothers, kept lifestock, run a telephone exchange, etc, etc.

Anywat, back to the point, just be interested in their lives, and listen to people. Ask their advice and about them. You'll soon find common interests, even if it is just the weather:cool:

lostinrates

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

I went to The University of Birmingham and did a completely pointless degree (philosophy) because i had no idea at that age what i wanted to do from life. At the end of the degree i decided i wanted to become a counselling psychologist so i am currently studying towards a second degree in psychology with the Open Uni. Thats what i get for being so indecisive and not putting as much thought and effort in to figuring out what i want and then working it all out too little too late...story of my life :rotfl: !

Hey, don't beat yourself up about that. I used my degree for a year or two, nothing more (was already working in a different area when I was diagnosed), dh read a different post grad subject to his BA, and then did a law convertion! In fact, the person in our family who springs to mind as using his first degree subject most is a Philospher lecturer. :rotfl:

A lot of young people are indecisive and frankly, poorly advised. Some don't have the gumption you have shown in reading a second subject that's a better, more useful fit.

lostinrates

Right, taking my own advice I'm going out now, but I hope both you girls have a good evening...

as well as all the serious stuff why not have a good bath and hair wash, or paint your toenails, or something HAPPY and not terribly important?