Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

viktory

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I think that's a little hard. She is hardly pandering to her merely trying to do what's best in a dificult situation.

I actually think she is pandering to her - understandably, given the circs, but she is pandering to her every whim now - and being egged on by the good people of MSE.

GlasweJen

Surely it's best to know for sure that the child consented to sex and that the father isn't someone completely inappropriate.

The fact that the daughter gets tearful/emotional when asked means nothing, most 15 year old girls are manipulative drama queens - it comes with the hormones. It could well be that she's sleeping with someone whos family her parents don't like, she knows that it would rub salt in the wounds to tell so she's letting her mum have a nervous breakdown over her welfare rather than just fessing up.

ETA by inappropriate I mean a teacher, friends dad, randomer she met on the internet etc.

Gillyx

GlasweJen wrote: »

My mum's a battleaxe, I would have been dead but at least I know that after the lecture I would have been supported. I wouldn't have been calling all of the shots like drip feeding the details to poor worried mummy who is running about keeping me off school, making new education arrangements and making my favourite dinners. I would have been at school, giving her the full story and I would definitely not be getting pandered to like the OPs daughter.

It never happened, I can't have kids and I wasn't having sex at 15, my sister was pregnant at 17, she miscarried quite late on but she is still breathing and has 3 girls now.

Must be a Glaswegian thing, my mum would be the same

savingmummy

I see people commenting on why it is so important toi know.......The need to know who got her pregnant is really to ensure it was a simple `accident` and nothing more major!
It may well be little john down the road, or innocent peter from yr10 BUT to have the worry of not knowing is quite stressful!!

Being completely honest i`d be in a state not knowing - noseyness mainly i suppose lol!
BUT seriously just knowing it was a boy from yr 10/11 or a boy from x street would be enough for now, its the silence thats a concern in my eyes, mind goes in overdrive i suppose.

GlasweJen

Gillyx wrote: »

Must be a Glaswegian thing, my mum would be the same

Lol, i think you're right.

Torry_Quine

savingmummy wrote: »

I see people commenting on why it is so important toi know.......The need to know who got her pregnant is really to ensure it was a simple `accident` and nothing more major!
It may well be little john down the road, or innocent peter from yr10 BUT to have the worry of not knowing is quite stressful!!

Being completely honest i`d be in a state not knowing - noseyness mainly i suppose lol!
BUT seriously just knowing it was a boy from yr 10/11 or a boy from x street would be enough for now, its the silence thats a concern in my eyes, mind goes in overdrive i suppose.

It's a normal thing to fill in the gaps when we don't know something but some of the speculation here doesn't help at all. I think that you could maybe say it would be better to tell me than wait till your father visits.

Oldernotwiser

GlasweJen wrote: »

OP, you're doing fab but I think if you're seriously worried about who the father is you need to get tougher with your daughter. My parents would have killed me if I walked in pregnant at 15, I would have been chewed up and spat out again for having the audacity to tell them over the phone and then to refuse to even tell them who the father is, well I would have been disowned (for the deceit, not the pregnancy).

Fact is your 15 year old daughter is pregnant and has no boyfriend, you should be calling the shots here and not her.

Thank heavens for such a sensible post!

gordikin

There's only one OP and mother here who can see 1st hand how her 15 year old girl is reacting and deal with it...can everyone please remember that?

Oldernotwiser

viktory wrote: »

I actually think she is pandering to her - understandably, given the circs, but she is pandering to her every whim now - and being egged on by the good people of MSE.

Well, that's makes three of us who think this.

Nobody wants the poor child thrown on the streets but the way some people are talking you'd think she's achieved something rather wonderful.

GlasweJen

Her daughter has been dealing fine for the last 4 weeks that she's known and kept it from her mum. She's also been neither up nor down (by the OPs account) in the last 12 weeks since conception.