Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

Tent_2

this thread could hit 1000 posts by tonite, good luck everyone.

janninew

Frugalista wrote: »

Good God!! They're pregnant not ill!!!!!

You have to remember though they have heavy bags to carry throughout the day, also corridors in secondary schools can be manic. The school I work at has nearly 2000 children and when the bell goes, the corridor and stairs can be quite dangerous!

We do risk assesments on all pregnant pupils at school and make small changes, for example the girls are allowed to leave 5 minutes before the bell to avoid the rush. They also have free access to the loo whenever they need to go.

mishkanorman

Frugalista wrote: »

Good God!! They're pregnant not ill!!!!!

My old boss used to use the same line when I had to travel up 5 flights of stairs to use the toilet or staff room. It wasnt much fun when I sometimes had to make 2 or 3 trips an hour !

artichoke

hi

I have been following with admiration for how you are handling this and hope i could be as sensible if this happened to my DD. I have not contributed as i did not feel i had anything new to add but i do have experience within education..

With regards to education - i think it would be possible to home educate informally for the next few weeks at least - ie until a decision is made, (can you talk to the doctor and see if they will write a vague sicknote ?) and then if she decides to keep the baby you can discuss with the LEA the different possibilities.

when is she due to sit her GSCE"s? next summer?

A lot of the Letts, etc revision guides have good curriculum summaries and weekly worksheets you could work through over the next few weeks, even if you don't cover any new ground you can make sure that she is completely up to date and confident in all the work done so far...

I am sure most schools are winding down now before the Summer Break, (we only have 4 weeks left) so keeping her off school for a few weeks whilst you work through the options and come to term with the decisions made might be better in the long run. If she decides to terminate - then it has not been made public, and if she decides to go though the pregnancy then she has kept up with her work as best as possible.

When i used to work at a university and read admissions forms etc, i ready quite a few from girls every year who had taken one year out from study due to having a baby and had done GCSE's or A levels one year later than their peers.... and then went on to successfully apply to university. I am not saying she would need to have a year out - but even if she did it is not the end of the world for her education. Most university's have nurseries for the children of staff and students.

take care

art

Welshdebtor

artichoke wrote: »

hi

I have been following with admiration for how you are handling this and hope i could be as sensible if this happened to my DD. I have not contributed as i did not feel i had anything new to add but i do have experience within education..

With regards to education - i think it would be possible to home educate informally for the next few weeks at least - ie until a decision is made, (can you talk to the doctor and see if they will write a vague sicknote ) and then if she decides to keep the baby you can discuss with the LEA the different possibilities.

when is she due to sit her GSCE"s? next summer?

A lot of the Letts, etc revision guides have good curriculum summaries and weekly worksheets you could work through over the next few weeks, even if you don't cover any new ground you can make sure that she is completley up to date and confident in all the work done so far...

I am sure most schools are winding down now before the Summer Break, so keeping her off school for a few weeks whilst you work through the options and come to term with the decisions made might be better in the long run. If she decides to terminate - then it has not been made public, and if she decides to go though the pregnancy then she has kept up with her work as best as possible.

When i used to work at a university and read admissions forms etc, i ready quite a few from girls every year who had taken one year out from study due to having a baby and had done GCSE's or A levels one year later than their peers.... and then went on to successfully apply to university. I am not saying she would need to have a yar out - but even if she did it is not the end of the world for her education. Most universitys have nurseries for the children of staff and students.

take care

art

Good point there about how close it is to the summer holidays. From now until they start is roughly the amount of time (in fact less I think) she has left to make a decision on the future.

kafkathecat

Poppyfield, home education would definitely be a possibility if you wanted to go that way but you get very little help from the LEA if you do deregister it may be worth seeing if they have anything else to offer first. There are many organisations such as the Nec or Oxford Home Learning which do correspondence courses. You will find lots of information here http://www.education-otherwise.net/ that may help. Anyone can home educate you just need to know where to go to find the resources.

POPPYOSCAR

artichoke wrote: »

hi

I have been following with admiration for how you are handling this and hope i could be as sensible if this happened to my DD. I have not contributed as i did not feel i had anything new to add but i do have experience within education..

With regards to education - i think it would be possible to home educate informally for the next few weeks at least - ie until a decision is made, (can you talk to the doctor and see if they will write a vague sicknote ) and then if she decides to keep the baby you can discuss with the LEA the different possibilities.

when is she due to sit her GSCE"s? next summer?

A lot of the Letts, etc revision guides have good curriculum summaries and weekly worksheets you could work through over the next few weeks, even if you don't cover any new ground you can make sure that she is completley up to date and confident in all the work done so far...

I am sure most schools are winding down now before the Summer Break, so keeping her off school for a few weeks whilst you work through the options and come to term with the decisions made might be better in the long run. If she decides to terminate - then it has not been made public, and if she decides to go though the pregnancy then she has kept up with her work as best as possible.

When i used to work at a university and read admissions forms etc, i ready quite a few from girls every year who had taken one year out from study due to having a baby and had done GCSE's or A levels one year later than their peers.... and then went on to successfully apply to university. I am not saying she would need to have a yar out - but even if she did it is not the end of the world for her education. Most universitys have nurseries for the children of staff and students.

take care

art

A very useful post IMO.

Frugalista

janninew wrote: »

You have to remember though they have heavy bags to carry throughout the day, also corridors in secondary schools can be manic. The school I work at has nearly 2000 children and when the bell goes, the corridor and stairs can be quite dangerous!

Ooh! The poor little loves !

Strange how other young mums can cope with being pregnant, carrying older babies/toddlers/shopping, etc, etc. Many expectant mums even hold down physical jobs as well as running a home!

The world has gone mad :eek:!!!

artichoke

hi

As there are only 4 or so weeks to go before the summer hols, i dont think a formal decision re home education needs to be taken yet,..

if she can be kept off school sick and informally educated / spend time revising and reading - then a decision can be made, once she has made the bigger decision re her future.

Keeping her off school for a few weeks would give them the privacy they need to come to terms with what has happened, whatever decision is made.

art

Plans_all_plans

Have you been in a school corridor recently when it's lesson changeover time? It is like a scene from a disaster film when everyone's trying to get onto the last boat leaving the harbour!