Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

Welshdebtor

poppyfield19 wrote: »

They told you to leave?

Just to point out, it is illegal for a school to exclude a pupil just for being pregnant. However they may direct her to another form of education such as home tutoring, if for any reason her school surroundings are not suitable, such as too many stairs, long walks between classes etc.

poppyfield19

I didn't realise it was illegal - thanks.

Person_one

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Thanks.

There's so many teen pregnancies nowadays but none of the girls in my daughters year have been pregnant I don't think, in the year above I think there was one, maybe 2.

The first in my year was year 9, so age 13/14, then a steady stream right through to upper sixth!

Its quite likely be that other girls in her year have had pregnancies but you don't know about them, that could be a good sign that the school handles them well.

pigpen

Person_one wrote: »

This shouldn't happen to your daughter, no offence to pigpen but I think her teen pregnancy was quite a few years ago!

If she continues with the pregnancy and has the baby she might be referred to a special unit where mums can study for their GCSEs together and childcare is provided, but merely being pregnant isn't enough for her to need to leave school.

There were baby bumps all over the place my last few years at school!

Not that many.. but it doen't look good when a catholic school is having to tell the LA how many of their students became pregnant. I was the third in a few months. I know DD's friend was asked to leave the same high school last year for the same reason.. they told her it would encourage other girls to become pregnant of all things!! Illegal it may well be, but who wants to fight about it when they are pregnant? I know I didn't and I am way too gobby for my own good

My sons GF was also asked to leave and that was only a couple of years ago.. they like to send them to the 'schoolgirl mums' unit which is appalling educationally. I would seriously advise anyone against going to the one here.

Teenage pregnancy is the norm here.. if you don't have a child or been pregnant at some point by the age of 20 there is usually something 'wrong with you' apparently!

poppyfield19

One thing that I did wonder was would it be possible to homeschool her - at least for now. I just don't know how well she will do at school.

pigpen

poppyfield19 wrote: »

One thing that I did wonder was would it be possible to homeschool her - at least for now. I just don't know how well she will do at school.

Of course.. you will need to show you are educating her at home though and not letting her sit watching Jezza Kyle!

Frugalista

Welshdebtor wrote: »

Just to point out, it is illegal for a school to exclude a pupil just for being pregnant. However they may direct her to another form of education such as home tutoring, if for any reason her school surroundings are not suitable, such as too many stairs, long walks between classes etc.

Good God!! They're pregnant not ill!!!!!

Person_one

pigpen wrote: »

Not that many.. but it doen't look good when a catholic school is having to tell the LA how many of their students became pregnant. I was the third in a few months. I know DD's friend was asked to leave the same high school last year for the same reason.. they told her it would encourage other girls to become pregnant of all things!!

My sons GF was also asked to leave and that was only a couple of years ago.. they like to send them to the 'schoolgirl mums' unit which is appalling educationally. I would seriously advise anyone against going to the one here.

Teenage pregnancy is the norm here.. if you don't have a child or been pregnant at some point by the age of 20 there is usually something 'wrong with you' apparently!

Ah yes, the hypocrisy of the Catholic school. Tell them contraception is a sin, tell them abortion is a sin, then tell them they're sinful harlots when they get pregnant and keep the baby!

I'm from an area with a high teen pregnancy rate too. I'm the only one of my (many many) female cousins who made it to 21 without a baby. I think they think I'm a lesbian...

Welshdebtor

poppyfield19 wrote: »

I didn't realise it was illegal - thanks.

had to self check now, in case I was mistaken. But I used the word "illegal" correctly it seems.

This is from a Tyneside website

She's still at school - will this be the end of her education?

Having a baby does not need to mean the end of your daughter's education. In fact, the education system today is more flexible than it has ever been. For example, did you know that there are schools on Tyneside that provide mainstream education for teenage mums and childcare for their baby? It is illegal for a school to exclude a pupil on the grounds of her being pregnant and Newcastle City Council's policy is to help pregnant teenagers attend school for as long as possible and to provide online educational services for those who prefer to study outside the school environment.
How and when your daughter continues with her education will depend on the stage that she is at, the support she has at home, what her school can offer her, and what she feels will suit her and her baby best. She may be able to transfer to a different place of study with more support or on-site childcare. This will depend on her personal circumstances and her choice.

Person_one

Frugalista wrote: »

Good God!! They're pregnant not ill!!!!!

These are the days of the risk assessment! Have you ever had to fill one out for an activity involving kids? I once had to assess the likelihood of ceiling tiles or light fittings falling onto their heads...