Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

poppyfield19

Her dad has phoned and asked if he can speak on the phone to her, I've asked her if it would be easier to do that to start with rather than the first time she talks to him about it, it's face to face, and she thinks it would be easier, so just waiting for him to phone now.

poppyfield19

Thanks welshdebtor (and others) for the information regarding the school.

I'm not keen on telling them, because I've had some negative experiences with them in the past (when she was 13 one of the teachers was a bit of a bully to her, nothing too serious, but still I'd class it as bullying). The head brushed it off and said no, that didn't happen, and she wouldn't talk to the teacher in question about it - I demanded that she moved class to another teacher which eventually they did do, but they were really difficult about it. Just not very keen on the head teacher but from what the doctor said, I do have to tell them for her safety, whether I want to or not.

pigpen

it also needs to be known to the school for insurance purposes.. so they don't get sued for putting her 'at risk' in some way whether they knew or not.

My school told me to leave shortly after I told them.

poppyfield19

They told you to leave?

Plans_all_plans

Can you not keep her off school until she knows what she wants to do? I doubt she will be able to concentrate much anyway.

I also think that time is of the essence in this situation and although the hands off approach is good in some ways, I feel that your daughter is going to need some guidance ASAP, whether this comes from you or an outside source is another matter though. I would be outlining the support you will give her (practical and otherwise) right about now.

Plans_all_plans

I would think it unlikely a school will tell a child to leave in these circumstances nowdays. They are generally well equipped and able to accommodate girls in your daughter's situation.

If they try any funny business like asking her to leave, I suggest you make a song and dance about it.

poppyfield19

That's why I am keeping her off until next Monday at least, however I don't think that is really enough time for her to decide, and get her head around whatever choice she makes.

Person_one

poppyfield19 wrote: »

They told you to leave?

This shouldn't happen to your daughter, no offence to pigpen but I think her teen pregnancy was quite a few years ago!

If she continues with the pregnancy and has the baby she might be referred to a special unit where mums can study for their GCSEs together and childcare is provided, but merely being pregnant isn't enough for her to need to leave school.

There were baby bumps all over the place my last few years at school!

Beki88

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

That would depend very much on the school in question. I would very much doubt the response would be that good from my daughters school.
Some teachers do not seem to be able to put their personal beliefs and prejudices to one side.

Anyway, I am only saying what I would do in the circumstances, Poppyfield may well want to let the school know what is happening if her daughter returns to school before any decisions have been made, I am not saying she should not tell the school. Just my personal opinion.

My post wasnt aimed at you just happened to be posted right after yours haha, everyone's experience is different I guess. Didn't mean that you were right or wrong, as you said its just what you would do

poppyfield19

Thanks.

There's so many teen pregnancies nowadays but none of the girls in my daughters year have been pregnant I don't think, in the year above I think there was one, maybe 2.