Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

**confuzzled**

adouglasmhor....I took it as you responding to the troll not you trolling..I think others may have taken it out of context...or worse..I have:eek: Hope not though:o

OP you're a fab mum and it seems as though you're handling the situation remarkably well, I'm also glad to see she has the support of her father too.....she's a very lucky girl:) Are your younger children aware of anything going on???

POPPYOSCAR

adouglasmhor wrote: »

Why, I find the attention speaking of the troll I was replying to disgusting and I replied appropriately.

If the word !!!!!! is disgusting how is using a word for mental illness to show anger as you have done appropriate?

Do you not think it best though to just ignore the trolls in the first place.? They obviously do not care one bit what anyone thinks of them and do it just to get a reaction.They end up derailing the thread. Why give them the satisfaction.


(BTW I was not referring to you as a troll!)

Dawning

**confuzzled** wrote: »

adouglasmhor....I took it as you responding to the troll not you trolling..I think others may have taken it out of context...or worse..I have:eek: Hope not though:o

I took it the same way as you did confuzzled. I was puzzled about why others were making those comments about it. I think I know why they said those things but I don't think that's how adouglasmhor intended it at all.

Pollycat

I'm not sure if I've lost the plot here?

Frugalista
ref your post #738
Why do you find it 'disgusting' that the girl's father has been told?

Do you not think he has a right to know about his daughter?

I've not read poppyfield's every word so I don't know if she is still with the girl's Dad but even if she isn't - wouldn't you agree that he has a right to know?

Or did you inadvertently quote the wrong part of adouglasmhor's post or even the wrong post entirely?

It's sad that these sorts of posts nearly always bring out the worst in some people, at least those who insist on reiterating their (usually) objectionable and judgemental view on whatever unfortunate situation someone has found themselves in.

Welshdebtor

Pollycat wrote: »

I'm not sure if I've lost the plot here?

Frugalista
ref your post #738
Why do you find it 'disgusting' that the girl's father has been told?

Do you not think he has a right to know about his daughter?

I've not read poppyfield's every word so I don't know if she is still with the girl's Dad but even if she isn't - wouldn't you agree that he has a right to know?

Or did you inadvertently quote the wrong part of adouglasmhor's post or even the wrong post entirely?

It's sad that these sorts of posts nearly always bring out the worst in some people, at least those who insist on reiterating their (usually) objectionable and judgemental view on whatever unfortunate situation someone has found themselves in.

they found offensive to the hidden part of the reply

RAS

pollycat

You have lost the plot.

frugalista was commenting on some type that had been written in white on a white background and only showed up when the comment was quoted. This used rather un-PC terms.

There is no doubt that the girls' father has the right to know, as he already does.

Welshdebtor

back to the topic in hand.....................................

rachbc

To those suggestiong that op 'forces' her daughter to tell her - how exactly do you suggest she does this? Is about the only thing this young woman has control over right now and I suspect the more pressure she gets the more likely she is to clam up. IMO energy is best focussed on op helping her daughter come to terms with her preg and make a decision about what to do next rather than speculating on what may or may not have caused her to get here - that can all be dealt with later when the daughter is ready.

poppyfield19

Hi everyone,
Thanks once again for all of your replies x

anothergymslipmum, thank you for being so open and sharing your experience. It sounds really awful for you.
It's good to hear different peoples experience with different options, so, thank you.

Her sisters don't know anything is going on at all, they are busy concentrating on their new toys they saved up for and now have They had a good weekend and my oldest daughter and me are on purpose trying to keep everything very normal for them.
My daughters dad is off this Friday, he will come and take the youngest 2 out for the day and they can stay with their aunt again - and he can have a chance to talk to our oldest. Although she feels very let down by him (which is understandable...) I think his support will be important in this.

I'm just so worried about her. I suppose that is normal isn't it, but she isn't ever very emotional. She is usually really strong, but a couple of times, tiny things will make her cry. She dropped a glass earlier and that made her cry. Just small things.

I won't try and push her into telling me who he is, but I really want to - need to - know that nobody has hurt my baby. I've tried writing to her, she came and gave me the note back, gave me a hug and said she didn't know what to write back.

I thought the same too that surely if something had happened I'd have seen some sign of it, but since her dad left, she'll go through a week or few days, that she seems quite down, and is very quiet. I might not have noticed anything, just assumed it was that.

I hope not, I wish I could stop myself thinking all these bad things

I know this post might be a bit of a mess. I won't try and push her into anything tonight, sorry if I'm rambling at all. Quite upset at the moment to be honest.

I appreciate all of your posts x

carolan78

rachbc wrote: »

To those suggestiong that op 'forces' her daughter to tell her - how exactly do you suggest she does this? Is about the only thing this young woman has control over right now and I suspect the more pressure she gets the more likely she is to clam up. IMO energy is best focussed on op helping her daughter come to terms with her preg and make a decision about what to do next rather than speculating on what may or may not have caused her to get here - that can all be dealt with later when the daughter is ready.

She can't force her but as I would be the OP is worried about the circumstances. Chances are it is someone around her own age but you can not be certain especially when the op knows roughly her actions and she doesn't spend her free time at the local park drinking ect.

All she can do is tell her what she plans on doing if she doesn't find out the name of the father soon (if anything at all).