Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

fairydiamond

Your daughter needs to be grown up about this. Yes, she's 15 but she got herself into an adult situation and she needs to grow up and deal with it. She needs to decide what she wants to do. This baby is growing every day and she needs to face up to that.

I would be concerned about why she's not telling you who the father is. I think it is an older boy, but that is just my opinion.

You are a good mother, you're handling it really well.

red_devil

surely if she has been attacked or forced you need to know so you can go to the police?

carolan78

anothergymslipmum wrote: »

I feel incredibly guilty about the bad things I have done in my life and all of it stems from getting pregnant at 15. It was stupid and I knew at the time it was stupid. If I could re-run my life this is the one thing I would do differently.

I learned a very hard lesson at 15 and it gladdens my heart that you are so supportive of your DD.

This is so sad and I hope one day you can over come the guilt you feel. As I said earlier in this thread my Husband was adopted and he thanks his birth mum for not having an abortion and allowing him a chance to live.

Not everyone can do that, I am not sure I could if I am honest with myself. It is clear you felt or were forced to go this route. If OP's daughter chooses this option she will not have been pushed into it and it will be entirely her choice. Human nature would make her wonder how the child's life is going and how it panned out but there is a lot more support now a days for both the birth family and the child adopted.

Welshdebtor

adouglasmhor wrote: »

I think you mean social services Siadwell. Social Security is benefits.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I did, it was a mistype.

Frugalista

gingin wrote: »

Whilst I respect the fact that you signed up to write your first post, I do feel the above is a pretty naive and one sided opinion. You are giving serious advice based on your one bad experience to a family who are very vulnerable at the moment.

How unbelievably arrogant and insensitive is the above :mad: :mad:. anothergymslipmum opened her heart about her devastating experience and you say it is one-sided and, therefore, presumably irrelevant?

What about all the other teen mums who have posted their personal, one-sided experiences "I kept the baby, stayed with the dad, had a wonderful career, and we all lived happily ever after". Are you saying only "hearts and butterflies" posts are desirable or relevant?

The cold reality of her situation is going to hit this young girl soon and all the "fluffy" stories in the world are not going to make this go away. She needs to know the good, bad and the ugly to be able to make an informed decision about her future.

**confuzzled**

adouglasmhor wrote: »

The girls father has already been told. and you are so !!!!!! kids on the special bus point at you and shout "retard"

I've refrained from commenting other than direct to OP but this made me laugh:)

peachyprice

vax2002 wrote: »

The baby is the innocent one.

What???.............

mummyroysof3

i guess for them time being it doesnt matter who the father is unless he has caused her harm which obviously you carnt support her with unless you know what happened...it must be very frustrating for you and worrying

it hard for her im sure but while understanding she is only 15 and still a child she has now got herself into and adult situation and i really dont mean this to sound horrible but she has alot of growing up to do and im sure whatever she decides to do about the baby it will affect her life for a long time if she is going to choose not to keep it that needs to be decided sooner rather than later, has she spoke to you about how she feels about both options?

hope you both ok

mommame

"ok honey the fact that you wont tell me who the father is, tells me one of 3 things"
1. He is young and you think he will be in trouble,he will be but no more than you are right now,nobody is going to beat him or anything.
2. He is someone older,married,friend of the family or someone who was supposed to be looking after you.
3. He was a monster who forced/bullied you.
No matter what the circumstances are darling I still need to know and I will be right there beside you no matter what.

vandanfc

Poppy could you ask her why she thinks that male involved would be angry ? If she answers that it might give some clues ??