Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

rachbc

Its a great sign that she feel she can tell you - I'd send a her a text telling her you love her and that if she wants to talk she can come home tonight, and if not you'll see her tomorrow.

Give her time to make the right decision - there are plenty of positive stories out there for girls who have taken either the continue or terminate route.

2gorgeousgirls

dehanni - if you can't say something constructive then please don't spout your c!!p here.

The OP posted for help and support.

OP - please stay calm and talk, talk, talk to your daughter. You need to find out how she came to be pregnant, was it consensual or not. If not, do you need to involve the police.

If it was, then what is the situation with the father, is he going to be supportive.

Most importantly, what does your daughter want, does she even at this stage know what she wants? If she wants to keep the baby, are you prepared to support her? What about her future, does she want to go on to further education?

She has so many things to consider and it will be down to you to help her through this.

Maybe get in touch with an organisation who can help your daughter to explore all her options.

Please tell her you love her and give her a big hug - she's probably very, very frightened at the moment.

Finally, have you someone you can confide in? I can't imagine how I would feel if one of my daughter's told me she was pregnant at such a young age but I think I would be yelling for my best friend to help me through.

poppyfield19

Thanks for the advice once again.

If the father is the same age as her, they are still underage I know, but what then?

poppyfield19

2gorgeousgirls wrote: »

Finally, have you someone you can confide in? I can't imagine how I would feel if one of my daughter's told me she was pregnant at such a young age but I think I would be yelling for my best friend to help me through.

I don't have any close friends that I think I could turn to right now with this, much as I would like to. I think it helps posting it here - even if it is just the internet

Kimberley82

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Thanks for the advice once again.

If the father is the same age as her, they are still underage I know, but what then?

What would you hope to get by going to the police? if it was me my daughter would be the main concern. Will it help her or make her situation worse?

Fruit_and_Nut_Case

plumpmouse wrote: »

If it was me i'd send her a quick text telling her you love her. Poor things is probably terrified and will probably be worrying all night.

Good luck to you both.

Yes, texting is good. It gives both of you a chance to respond in your own time instead of being pressurised to answer right away.

2gorgeousgirls

Because she is underage it may come to the attention of the police but that doesn't mean to say there will be any action taken if both of them are underage.

A friend of my brother's was 15 when his 14year old girlfriend got pregnant. The police were called (not by either of the parents) and it was investigated. However, they established that it was consensual and even though they were both underage no action was taken.

The couple got married as soon as they were old enough and are still together several years later and have 2 more children, so there can be a happy ending!

MrsE_2

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Thanks for the advice once again.

If the father is the same age as her, they are still underage I know, but what then?

Assuming the father is the same (similar) age, I don't think involving the police is a good idea.

2gorgeousgirls

poppyfield19 wrote: »

I don't have any close friends that I think I could turn to right now with this, much as I would like to. I think it helps posting it here - even if it is just the internet

In that case, keep posting. You'll get loads of support on here, just ignore those who don't seem capable of saying anything constructive.

Take care xx

picnmix

Big hugs to you. You must be going out of your mind at the moment, I think we can all empathise with you.
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I think I would have to go and get her if it were my DD, I dont think either of you are going to get a moments peace until you have seen each other and hugged, cried and talked. She must be petrified of what her future holds now.

I have a friend whose sister fell pregnant at 15, although very difficult for the whole family, she has a lovely DS who is now 6, a great job and a nice chap (not the father he was only 15 too and the responsbility was just too much for him). Things were very hard for her, but with support she got through it, finished her exams etc and moved on with her life.

HTH x