Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

poppyfield19

Poppy9 that's what I am struggling with, bring her home or not - I think I'll phone her and ask what she would rather do.

plumpmouse

If it was me i'd send her a quick text telling her you love her. Poor things is probably terrified and will probably be worrying all night.

Good luck to you both.

meg72

Big Hugs, you have been given really good advice here andI cant think of anything to add except ignore the nasty they thrive onthe
attention,with a bit of luck they will get bored and go away.

The very very best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever
you decide.

happy35

this will be a really hard time for you both, if you are going to be providing support to your daughter do you have someone to offload on to?

you are lucky that you have a strong relationship with your daughter that she feels she can talk to you about this.

it may be an idea to book and appointment with a GP just to confirm everything, they may be able to refer your daughter to a counsellor to talk everything through

hope everything works out

poppyfield19

Thank you both x

Poppy9

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Poppy9 that's what I am struggling with, bring her home or not - I think I'll phone her and ask what she would rather do.

I think you have to go into parent mode and tell her she's coming home. That is what I would do and I think that is what my DD would want me to do.

I understand what OBW means about being angry. I would be angry, angry that all my good advice/warning etc. had fallen on deaf years, angry that my DD had been so stupid, angry that she was the one left with the "problem" . Perfectly natural reaction IMO, just like being angry at someone for dying! Sometimes you have to accept your reactions/emotions to learn to live/deal with a situation.

poppyfield19

happy35 wrote: »

this will be a really hard time for you both, if you are going to be providing support to your daughter do you have someone to offload on to?

you are lucky that you have a strong relationship with your daughter that she feels she can talk to you about this.

it may be an idea to book and appointment with a GP just to confirm everything, they may be able to refer your daughter to a counsellor to talk everything through

hope everything works out

Thanks - no it is really just me and my kids. She has 2 younger sisters who are at their aunts house tonight.

System

I think for now the best thing you can do is just be there for her as obviously she's going to be in shock (as are you!). Its really good she trusts you enough to confide in you, and when the time comes whatever she chooses (and it does need to be her choice) you'll be there for her.

mandi

Hi Poppy,

My first thought is that she has planned staying with her friend in order to make the call to you , so I'm guessing she is feeling pretty scared and unsure at the moment and really needs her mums support .

I would definitely let her stay with her friend tonight if that's what she wants , but she may not want to and is only there to stay out of your way .

Have you thought about sending her a text to tell her that your not angry and if she wants to come home she can .

savingmummy

plumpmouse wrote: »

If it was me i'd send her a quick text telling her you love her. Poor things is probably terrified and will probably be worrying all night.

Good luck to you both.

I agree! She is probably running through in her mind what mum is thinking etc and i bet she isnt thinking `mum loves me`.