Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

leandygandy

poppyfield19 wrote: »

I can't decide if I should get her to come home early or if that's going to stir things up more. The plan is she'll come home at 9am in the morning, she is at a friends tonight.

Perhaps leave her be tonight, it probably took all her courage to call you today and I'd imagine she's worried about your reaction. As long as you know she is safe at her friend's I'd not worry about making her come home.

It also then gives you the night to get your head around things and prepare yourself for tomorrow.

And I agree with the poster who said to get the wine out.

Kimberley82

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Thanks for your replies so far Kimberley.

No worries - I definitely wouldn't be calling the police or doing anything until I speak to her.

Thats OK, its a horrible situation for you all. make sure you tell her you still love her and give her a big hug, she will be so scared. I felt I had let my parents down so much.

poppyfield19

Really hope she doesn't feel that way at all. Were your parents angry at you at all?

Kimberley82

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Really hope she doesn't feel that way at all. Were your parents angry at you at all?

They were very upset and were not over the moon.

VfM4meplse

poppyfield19 wrote: »

I can't decide if I should get her to come home early or if that's going to stir things up more. The plan is she'll come home at 9am in the morning, she is at a friends tonight.

I think you need a night apart, this news is too recent and the implications confusing, there must be a hundred different thoughts running through your mind atm. If you manage to get any sleep at all tonight there may be some clarity by the morning. Hugs :grouphug:.

Oldernotwiser

poppyfield19 wrote: »

I can't decide if I should get her to come home early or if that's going to stir things up more. The plan is she'll come home at 9am in the morning, she is at a friends tonight.

Are you sure?

poppyfield19

Thank you x

summerday

Hi there,

It must be a real shock for you and I'm not surprised you feel confused and numb. BUT your first responses to your daughter's news will be so very important. She is very young and must be petrified and in real shock herself. Try to get her home as soon as possible (make clear that you are not angry at her and she has nothing to fear) and make sure the first thing you do is give her a big supportive hug and tell her you love her.

It will of course need to be your daughter's decision about what she decides to do, so whatever your personal views or opinions please try not to project them onto her too much. It's possible she may have thought it over and already made up her mind. Just try to make it clear to her that whatever she's done, whatever she decides, you are still her mum and you will be there to love and support her.

Oh, and please encourage her to see a doctor asap- she may not have any idea how far gone she is and if she does decide that she'd rather not go aheead with things this will have an impact.

I'm sure others know of impartial conselling services who could talk her through her options in a non-judemental and objective way.

Please stay strong, it's hard but whatever your daughter dcides you will get through this.

Summerday xx

poppyfield19

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Are you sure?

Yes, drove her there myself and I know the mother and daughter (her friend) so she is definitely at a friends house.

McKneff

ignore the negative posts here OP, Dehanni in particular, he/she is nasty in the extreme and posts deliberate obnoxious posts to wind people up. Im surprised he/she has bot been banned.

Communication and support is the key here, when you see her next, just give her a big hug, make her a cuppa and sit down and talk.
At 15, she is almost adult and as a teenager very confused,

Talk and see how it goes, but of all things, dont judge and keep calm.