Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

Kimberley82

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Wasn't a convent school was it?

No but the one I did go to a convent school before that one.

POPPYOSCAR

Kimberley82 wrote: »

No but the one I did go to a convent school before that one.

Well if it was anything like mine that was probably just as bad!

Oldernotwiser

Person_one wrote: »

It is normal, its been normal for millennia.

Child prostitution has happened for millennia - doesn't make it normal or desirable.

We stop protecting our children at our peril.

taxi36

viktory wrote: »

Taxi, let me tell you - I, for one, am so glad you have joined the discussion. Your intelligent input has undoubtedly been invaluable for the OP. Your thoughtful comments, perceptive remarks, kindness and consideration for others really puts the rest of us in the shade. Do you really drive a taxi? I bet your customers love you and seek out your taxi so they can engage in deep, meaningful discourse with you.

My "intelligent input" as you will see when you look back over my first post in this thread was thanked by over 25 people. Seems a lot of people found it in some way helpful.

At the end of the day Viktory you will find that the posts I make are made from experience. You see my Daughter is also a teen mum. What experience are YOU posting from?

It is easy for people to say "oh you should do this and oh you should say that" but I have said before and will say it again , until you have been in a similar situation you DO NOT KNOW HOW YOU WILL REACT.

You on the other hand bring nothing but sarcasim and attempts at dry wit to each and every thread you post on. I have never witnessed you say anything nice to anyone on this board.

Alikay

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Exactly.

Most parents of 15 year olds will have an input into even their simplest decisions, so it seems foolhardy to leave her to make one of the most difficult decisions of her life without some input.

I agree. And the responsibility for taking such a monumental decision alone is probably too much for many 15 year olds to bear. Heck, at 15, my daughter couldn't even decide what top to wear to town without consulting 3 friends!

Sadly I think at 14 weeks and counting, her choices are becoming more limited anyway, poor girl.

taxi36

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

As I said, you couldn't find anything.

No Oldernotwiser , it is exactly as I said in that I wouldnt waste my time going back over the thread pointing out your various posts in which your thoughts/feelings on teen mums was evident.

I can just imagine you sat at your keyboard reading posts on this subject with the look of displeasure on your face. Maybe in your day the idea of a teenage mother was something to be ashamed of . You really need to keep up , we are in the year 2011 and whilst I agree the situation of finding out that your teenage Daughter is pregnant is far from ideal it is NOT the "tragedy" it used to be.

donteatthat

GlasweJen wrote: »

I'm also 24, at our school the girls who were sleeping with guys at 14/15 were the under achievers and were considered weird/dirty/attention seeking. Girls certainly weren't bullied for not having sex, it was the ones who were having sex/walking about with bumps who were shunned.

And I can't say that I went to a posh school, of my year group (8 classes of 33) only 13 went to uni.

I'm 35 and went to a comprehensive - not posh and not terrible, just normal. Underage sex occurred irrespective of academic or social status, and a few got pregnant in my year. I even know a couple of people who went to good boarding schools who got pregnant at 15. Hardly underachievers. Teenage pregnancy happens across the social classes, but I suspect people from certain walks of life deal with the pregnancy in a way that keeps it out of the public domain so there is less opportunity for gossip and bullying.

Jesswithwings

taxi36 wrote: »

It is easy for people to say "oh you should do this and oh you should say that" but I have said before and will say it again , until you have been in a similar situation you DO NOT KNOW HOW YOU WILL REACT.
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:T well said. Its very easy for others to say whether they come from the anti-abortion moral high ground or concern for Poppy's daughter's well being. We've all got an opinion, but its knowing when to voice it that matters. I don't believe now is the time.

viktory

taxi36 wrote: »

What experience are YOU posting from?

I was a teen Mum

taxi36

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Taxi - before your daughter got pregnant what was your take on teen mums?

There is a huge difference between the situation that your daughter finds herself in and the OP's daughter, not only because of the difference in ages but more importantly your daughter was in a relationship and the OP's daughter apparently wasn't.

For every success story, I bet there's many more where the girl failed to reach her potential in life becuase she became pregnant when a teen.

Before my Daughter became pregnant I didnt have an opinion on teenage mums. It wasnt something that I gave a lot of thought to. I knew of teenagers with kids of their own but as im not the type to judge anyone else until I walk a day in their shoes I never voiced an opinion.
As you seem to have familiarised yourself with mine and my Daughters situation you should know that my Daughters long term partner left her the second she informed him that she was carrying his child. Far from ideal and hardly a success story now is it?
The difference in age is unimportant too as she is my Daughter and my love for her is unconditional. If she had come to me at 15 pregnant then I would have felt the same worry and panic that I felt when she told me she was pregnant and 17 but as her parent she would have received the same love , understanding and support.

Im her Daddy and that is my job!