Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

poppyfield19

I don't let her make all of those decisions, but being pregnant to me is different.

She would look after her baby, and if possible, would do her schoolwork at home. I know it won't be easy, easier said than done, but she is devoted to her school work so if the school can still let her sit her exams, and she can study for them, but at home, then I honestly don't think she is throwing away her education.

RedwoodBrook

Has your daughter considered how the situation may be different if she continues with the pregnancy and the baby is disabled? A pregnancy does not always end with a healthy baby; sometimes there is no baby at all. Difficult to cope with at my age, let alone 15.

Just things to consider. Everybody thinks it won't happen to them but pregnancy is not all sunshine and flowers.

Good luck with whatever you and her decide.

marywooyeah

If she is a hard worker (which it sounds like she is) I can't see it being a problem. For what it's worth I have just finished the second year of my Law degree and have a 3 year old (he was 15 months when I started) and I've held down a job the whole time too.
It can be done ...although I am 24 and not 15, but you get the gist

marywooyeah

RedwoodBrook wrote: »

Has your daughter considered how the situation may be different if she continues with the pregnancy and the baby is disabled? A pregnancy does not always end with a healthy baby; sometimes there is no baby at all. Difficult to cope with at my age, let alone 15.

Just things to consider. Everybody thinks it won't happen to them but pregnancy is not all sunshine and flowers.

Good luck with whatever you and her decide.

I remember you, your thread literally had me in tears. I am so sorry for your loss hun, he sounded so beautiful from how you described him xxx

System

I have to disagree with directly telling her what to do.

It' her body, has to be her decision surely?

If i was forced into something like that (any of the 3 options) i'd resent my parents and probably never forgive them

RedwoodBrook

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I have to disagree with directly her what to do.

It' her body, has to be her decision surely?

If i was forced into something like that (any of the 3 options) i'd resent my parents and probably never forgive them

I think that when you are financially..emotionally...welll, totally dependent on someone else (in this case her mum, the OP), their opinions have to be taken into account.

Lets not have any illusions, this 15 year old is not going to be bringing up and looking after this baby alone.

January20

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Thanks LittleMissMPB, I have to say that although I have nothing against abortion and know it's often the right thing to do, it does worry me that she is 14 weeks pregnant. Maybe not technically a baby, but it does 'look' like a small version of one at that point if that makes sense. It's not for me I'm worried, it is my daughter, I'm not sure she'd be able to cope with that. I hope I don't sound selfish and people assume I've tried to put her off an abortion, it just worries me.

Perhaps you have nothing against abortions, but your posts clearly indicated to me that you want her to keep it. You have not said it in so many words, but that what I get reading your posts, so I'm sure your daughter is getting the same vibe, only stronger. You say you are worried about your daughter's well-being if she goes through an abortion, you don't seem to bothered about her well-being if she keeps the child! I don't think your daughter will be able to make an objective decision. She should really speak to somebody who has no agenda, no emotional attachment to her.

Have you spoken to you daughter about the implications of keeping the pregnancy, how she will have to inform the dad, the same dad she doesn't want you to know about?

Have you told her she will be linked to the dad for the rest of her life, whoever he is and regardless of the circumstances in which she got pregnant.

Have you thought about her little sisters and how they will be judged and labelled because their sibling got pregnant so young?

I'm not saying she should or shouldn't have an abortion. That is not my place. I'm just pointing out a few of the many things that are to be considered.

Violetta_2

poppyfield, no ones picked up on the fact that your daughter was surprised she was 14 wks, now unless that's due to the usual weird thing that on the day you conceive date wise the Dr's put you at 2 wks pregnant then it does mean that whatever happened wasn't a 1 off occurrence. It may be nothing just wanted to mention it.

Cerisa

Perhaps the OP's daughter feels guilty because of people who think a 14 week foetus is an actual baby.

It isn't, legally, biologically or morally.

Remember - 15 year old girl. She isn't morally bad for haing sex, it's perfectly natural. She isn't morally bad for getting pregnant - it happens, and it happens more often due to 'traditionalists' not liking the reality that teenagers get horny.

If she chooses to get an abortion - guess what, she still won't be morally bad.

Bringing a foetus to term out of guilt is much more irresponsible than terminating an unwanted pregnancy.

Welshdebtor

Cerisa wrote: »

Perhaps the OP's daughter feels guilty because of people who think a 14 week foetus is an actual baby.

It isn't, legally, biologically or morally.

Remember - 15 year old girl. She isn't morally bad for haing sex, it's perfectly natural. She isn't morally bad for getting pregnant - it happens, and it happens more often due to 'traditionalists' not liking the reality that teenagers get horny.

If she chooses to get an abortion - guess what, she still won't be morally bad.

Bringing a foetus to term out of guilt is much more irresponsible than terminating an unwanted pregnancy.

I agree,nothing wrong with terminating if she so chooses. I am still shocked though how developed it is at 14/15 weeks. So dependant on the procedure used locally it may be best to made aware to look away etc. But the OP needs to look into how things are done locally for someone late into termination.