Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

poet123

I work in a college in the same room as the SLO (Student Liaison Officer) and he keeps a box of condoms under his desk and 16 year olds regularly pop in for one.....funny though, without exception, they all ask for large!!

paddy's_mum

poet123 wrote: »

.....funny though, without exception, they all ask for large!!

You gotta laugh! Thanks for that :rotfl:

peachyprice

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I really don't see what difference who the father is or how this happened as any relevance to the decision that needs to be made.

Really?

You can't see what difference it makes whether it's a lad from school or heaven forbid an adult in a trusted position?

You can't see that that would make a difference to how she may feel about a child she's possibly bringing into the world and how she would feel about that child and how she may want to proceed with the pregnancy?

Waldy

Definitely You have to talk to her!! Probably it´s an unexpected situation for you. From my pedagogical view, people should find only positive factors from every situation. If your relationship with daughter is in normal that daughter has a brilliant support for her motherhood. I think the power of family is always the biggest culture element in our society.

Errata

Condoms only come in large, extra large and dear me what's that!

Opinion seems polarised about discovering the name of the father. Perhaps one reason it needs to be discovered PDQ is that the girl didn't have a boyfriend, doesn't have a boyfriend and her mum believed she knew where she was and who she was with during her every waking minute. The girl flatly refuses to say who, when, what or anything else and says she hasn't yet shared the news with the father despite having known herself for weeks.

POPPYOSCAR

peachyprice wrote: »

Really?

You can't see what difference it makes whether it's a lad from school or heaven forbid an adult in a trusted position?

You can't see that that would make a difference to how she may feel about a child she's possibly bringing into the world and how she would feel about that child and how she may want to proceed with the pregnancy?

The girl already knows - it the mum who does not have this information.

pelirocco

Errata wrote: »

Condoms only come in large, extra large and dear me what's that!

Opinion seems polarised about discovering the name of the father. Perhaps one reason it needs to be discovered PDQ is that the girl didn't have a boyfriend, doesn't have a boyfriend and her mum believed she knew where she was and who she was with during her every waking minute. The girl flatly refuses to say who, when, what or anything else and says she hasn't yet shared the news with the father despite having known herself for weeks.

I think what some posters are saying is the future of the pregnancy is more important at the moment

Welshdebtor

I agree the DD knows, so will make her choices based on that knowledge. If the mother knew, she could unknowingly force the the DD into a choice. Such as "Do you really want an every day reminder of "so and so" when you look at your child?" "You are right mum, I will terminate" and 6 months later regret it and blame her mum for talking her into it..

On the other hand.

Maybe the OP knowing could help in offering the right advice, in a manner deemed correct, helping the DD see the bigger picture

Note I see both sides, so do not bite my head off

I still think the priority is in the DD deciding what to do,rather than for the OP to find out details on the father.Especailly given the limited time if the termination route is taken later.

Rikki

Some have mentioned the doctor not sending her for a scan and the OP's daughter being 14 weeks pregnant. I don't think the doctor would send her for a scan or any other pregnancy type appointments until a decision has been made. I wouldn't like my daughter to see a scan of a baby she may decide it's best to abort.

Talking is the best step for now but a decision has to come quick.

looby75

Rikki wrote: »

Some have mentioned the doctor not sending her for a scan and the OP's daughter being 14 weeks pregnant. I don't think the doctor would send her for a scan or any other pregnancy type appointments until a decision has been made. I wouldn't like my daughter to see a scan of a baby she may decide it's best to abort.

Talking is the best step for now but a decision has to come quick.

AFAIK you HAVE to have a scan before you can have a termination to make sure you aren't further on than you think.

You don't have to see the screen but you DO have to have the scan.