Ladies do you receive house keeping from hubby?

Barneysmom

I couldn't live with someone like that, I'd have to leave.
Better off on your own.

Pee

It looks to me like he is paying for all the essentials apart from food and electric. Perhaps you ought to do an SOA on the debt free wannabe board. I think the percentage idea is a good one, but really, I think if one person pays all the essentials apart from food and electric, they are not far off pulling their weight...

kelloggs36

We just pool all our money - what is mine is his and vice versa - we don't consider mine or his at all so it makes life so much easier! In terms of savings, it is in my name, but that was only because when we opened the account I was not working, so I was a non-tax payer, so it made financial sense, but it didn't mean that the money was mine - it was ours. I can't imagine living where I had to ask for money for anything - and i wouldn't expect hubby to either. We discuss large purchases eg holidays, large or expensive items, but otherwise we just buy what we need for day to day living etc.

onlyroz

How demeaning to have to ask for money. Sounds like you need a joint account to pool money, and a better paid job to cover your own personal spends.

Emmzi

the more I have been thinking about this, the more I am certain you would be better off on your own.

After seeing a solicitor so you can explain to him that actually you *are* entitled to a stake in the house, whosever name it is in. And actually that HE may have to leave the house, not you, as it is the matrimonial home, unless he wants to be the principle childcarer.

He is a stupid selfish man and you can do better.

Kimberley82

No I just get his wages go straight into my bank

Mojisola

darlyd wrote: »

I pay my bits: catalogues, credit cards, health insurance, life insurance, mobile phone, car insurance, food shopping, clothes, toiletries etc. Pay for DD1 activities, And I also pay the electric bill as my contribution.

hubby pays, mortgage (it's in his name only, bought before we met), council tax, house insurance, gas, water, sky/bb/phone. He has company mobile and car.

He earns a considerable amount more money than myself. But pays less out each month.

He seems to think I am all good financially :eek: But I am struggling and have taken on a second job. I was so much better off financially when I was a single mum.

Pee wrote: »

It looks to me like he is paying for all the essentials apart from food and electric. Perhaps you ought to do an SOA on the debt free wannabe board. I think the percentage idea is a good one, but really, I think if one person pays all the essentials apart from food and electric, they are not far off pulling their weight...

Pee - depending on the figures, that might be the case if they were flatmates, sharing the costs but living separate lives, but this is a married couple!

seven-day-weekend

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

I wouldn't be at all happy with the arrangement you have at the mo!

Even when I was a stay at home mum (now working part time) my husband and I had a joint account and to be honest, he hardly ever touched the money anyway! The child benefit and the small amount of child tax credits we get go in the joint account too.

I really don't get this "mine and yours" in a marriage. At least the fact that you're married gives you some security when it comes to not being on the house deeds though.

If he thinks you're a kept woman, tell him you're resigning from your job so that he can truly "keep you."

Our arrangements are the same as this too, always have been in forty years of marriage. I have usually worked, but did spend some years at home with only Child Benefit for one child and five years of early retirement with nothing. I now have a State Pension which goes into an account with both our names on, as does his Teachers' Pension. Makes no difference who's name is on the income, it's all ours and anything left goes towards savings. Neither of us would dream of spensing more than about £30 on ourselves without at least informing the other one.

However, if this guy does not want to contribute, I'm not at all sure what you can do, but I would query why he does not want your name on the house deeds.:eek:

happy_but_skint

We have seperate bank accounts I do a budget at the begining of the month we leave his petrol money for work in his account and everything else goes into mine. He has full access both online and he can take my cards without asking. I have 1 ds from a previous relationship but my husband takes full responsability for him and many people dont even realise he is his "step" dad. I wouldnt have it any other way.

The bills get paid and we rarely have money for personal spends I am lucky if my husband goes to the pub with his friends he will take the car and drink squash if we did have enough for personal spends we probably wouldnt touch it as we are so used to going without.

Looking back over the posts makes me realise how lucky I am.

Errata

I never know what to make of couples who are delighted to pool their bodily fluids but are horrified at the thought of pooling their cash.