Ladies do you receive house keeping from hubby?

Darlyd

I am very curious to ask how your DH/Partner contributes to the house?

I have 2 children, 1 with DH, We don't have a joint account.

I pay my bits: catalogues, credit cards, health insurance, life insurance, mobile phone, car insurance, food shopping, clothes, toiletries etc. Pay for DD1 activities, And I also pay the electric bill as my contribution.

hubby pays, mortgage (it's in his name only, bought before we met), council tax, house insurance, gas, water, sky/bb/phone. He has company mobile and car.

He earns a considerable amount more money than myself. But pays less out each month.

We are due for a discussion about our finances and what we can do about them, but I don't want to ask him for more money every week if it seems to much. Hence why I am asking here.

He gives me £60 a week towards everything (food, his DD upkeep etc).

Now I remember my Dad gave my mum £100 a week over 15 years ago.

He seems to think I am all good financially :eek: But I am struggling and have taken on a second job. I was so much better off financially when I was a single mum. So that say's something.

Mojisola

Is he a husband or a lodger?!

You need to look at all the household bills and then agree a fair way to cover the bills. It doesn't sound as if pooling your money would suit you as a couple so suggest the percentage route.

If he earns twice as much as you, he pays twice as much into the pot.

bluenoseam

darlyd wrote: »

I am very curious to ask how your DH/Partner contributes to the house?

I have 2 children, 1 with DH, We don't have a joint account.

I pay my bits: catalogues, credit cards, health insurance, life insurance, mobile phone, car insurance, food shopping, clothes, toiletries etc. Pay for DD1 activities, And I also pay the electric bill as my contribution.

hubby pays, mortgage (it's in his name only, bought before we met), council tax, house insurance, gas, water, sky/bb/phone. He has company mobile and car.

He earns a considerable amount more money than myself. But pays less out each month.

We are due for a discussion about our finances and what we can do about them, but I don't want to ask him for more money every week if it seems to much. Hence why I am asking here.

He gives me £60 a week towards everything (food, his DD upkeep etc).

Now I remember my Dad gave my mum £100 a week over 15 years ago.

He seems to think I am all good financially :eek: But I am struggling and have taken on a second job. I was so much better off financially when I was a single mum. So that say's something.

Are these your doing, his doing or joint doing? Personally i'd be tempted to say he's actually paying his own stuff which to an extent (Sky/bb/phone) you can benefit from too - bearing in mind he's also paying the mortgage & council tax, so he's technically keeping the roof over everyones head.

pcal

i would be telling him you need more. me and dh pay all the bills equally, then what ever is left is split , i would also want to be put on the mortgage too if possible.

BitterAndTwisted

All income should be pooled and any money left over after all of the bills are paid and some put into savings should be split 50/50 as discretionary spends.

Your husband is behaving as if he was your lodger!

Darlyd

pcal wrote: »

i would be telling him you need more. me and dh pay all the bills equally, then what ever is left is split , i would also want to be put on the mortgage too if possible.

I hear you, But I am weary of asking him that, as well as going on the deeds. Don't know why I just am.

Mojisola

darlyd wrote: »

I hear you, But I am weary of asking him that, as well as going on the deeds. Don't know why I just am.

If he thinks he's protecting the house as his by not putting you on the deeds, he's mistaken.

Darlyd

bluenoseam wrote: »

Are these your doing, his doing or joint doing? Personally i'd be tempted to say he's actually paying his own stuff which to an extent (Sky/bb/phone) you can benefit from too - bearing in mind he's also paying the mortgage & council tax, so he's technically keeping the roof over everyones head.

They are my doing as I struggle to afford clothes for the kids so buy them out of the catalogue and I use credit card when I am really struggling, but usually I pay it off when I get paid. But I owe on it now as I treated us to a weekend in London. As I never been before and wanted to celebrate our wedding anniversary away from here. I am a romantic, wish he was lol.

martinthebandit

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

All income should be pooled and any money left over after all of the bills are paid and some put into savings should be split 50/50 as discretionary spends.

Your husband is behaving as if he was your lodger!

as above, I suppose I am old school on this but I view living together/marriage as a partnership of equals.

and that means share and share alike.

anderson8

dehaani wrote: »

Yep, it's a profitable line of work being a baby factory.

its comments like this that i would suggest shows why you need to start threads on how to make friends

OP does your hubby know youre struggling?
perhaps sitting down and having a good old heart to heart may be the way forward

rachbc

we share bills and then each put £250 cash into a pot for food/ petrol/ other household bits each month. I tend to do all the food shopping so I guesss you might see it as 'housekeeping' but as I also put in the same I don't consdier it as such.

I have 2 kids - one with OH and he pays equally for both kids not just his....maintenance for my son goes into the joint bill pay account as does the CB fro both kids