Heartbroken!

the_cat

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I don't think that grown ups with children stay out all night unless they're JK fodder.

Especially when they get so drunk that they can't get out of bed until late afternoon the following day

But I think that's the point. We are not dealing with a grown up here - its a 32 year old teenager:D

Errata

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

Er yes they do but the difference is its probably planned and the partner is fully aware and happy about it.

I dont think the OPs partner was up to anything but can understand her frustration and doubke standards shouldnt apply but I also think its a female thing. Even when I have been out late I still sober up ready for the next day. I think its a Mum thing

A female thing? It might be a female thing because her OH has children by other women and she's frightened of being yet another woman with a child left high and dry by him.
If I had an OH like him I wouldn't trust him an inch, and I'd be making sure that his part time wages were spent on necessities, like child support, before any booze was bought.

Keeping_Positive

Errata wrote: »

A female thing? It might be a female thing because her OH has children by other women and she's frightened of being yet another woman with a child left high and dry by him.
If I had an OH like him I wouldn't trust him an inch, and I'd be making sure that his part time wages were spent on necessities, like child support, before any booze was bought.

???

I meant as in a female thing about not getting plastered and sleeping in the next day nothing to do with the OH

viktory

This is what you and your relationship need.

Let us know when you are on!

suited-aces

Jeremy Kyle? that's a very original post

moomoomama27

Wow, I have t agree with the JK references. I think you both need to grow up, no way is that a good atmosphere for a child to be raised! Sounds like you need to sort out the trust issues with your OH, before you have any more kids with him!

emsywoo123

Ames wrote: »

All your other posts have been about what a perfect life you have with your hubby and baby,

I am sitting on my hands (clearly quite badly as I managed to post this :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: )

leos-mummy

Ok I asked for some advice and have recieved a lot of critiscism... I am a good mother and perfectly capable of looking after my son regardless of whether there has been an issue between me and my OH. Lots of people ask advice on here should we tell them all to go on Jeremy. My partner is a good father, he isnt out a lot but the double standards angered me this weekend as did the ex contacting him. Thanks for those who gave constructive advice

Southpaw18

Hi Leos Mummy,

Forget the criticism, ive been with a GF nearly 6 years, after 3 awful cheating Whorses (thanks Biffy Clyro for the covering of my real word) and the instant i met her i knew she was different. In 3 relationships i can tell you this, my suspicions were ALL correct. I have urges for other women all the time, but i know i couldnt because of my GF and how sweet i think she is, however that doesnt mean it dont happen.

The frank truth is, hes probably cheating. . if he isnt.. . he wants to. Given the chance i dont doubt he would . . trust me ive been there.

The sad part of situations like this are women who cling on, hoping they will change or telling themselves they are the only one for them, although you are not to blame for his indiscreation, if you continue to allow him to boss the relationship and not trust him or feel you can, then you are as much to blame as he is.

Friend of mine has had a girlfriend for5 years, constantly on and off, sleeping with other women, but continually stays with her, because she refuses to leave and admit there is nothing there, and honestly, i completely blame her for this, as he makes it clear he sleeps around. truth is you need to say it ends or you leave, DO NOT change this, follow through and leave him, no matter how hard you think itll be, it changes with time, and we all know thats true.

talk to him all you like and let him convince u he isnt doing anything, but ask yourself this. . If someone else comes along and hands it to him on a plate would he turn it down? given he seems to get off on texts, i doubt very much the real deal would be turned down.

All the best, dont let it ruin you, get over it and trust him, or leave right away, but your suspicions are usually right i find.

My GF can go hours without texting and i only text through worry,

suki1964

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

Er yes they do but the difference is its probably planned and the partner is fully aware and happy about it.

I dont think the OPs partner was up to anything but can understand her frustration and doubke standards shouldnt apply but I also think its a female thing. Even when I have been out late I still sober up ready for the next day. I think its a Mum thing

Erm maybe in Jeremy Kyle chav land you do

But no, responsoble adults do not spend the night out on the lash till the wee hours

And no way is anyone who was out all night fit to be in charge of a child the following day