Heartbroken!

leos-mummy

Honestly no I don't. Hes still not home ( he stayed the night at his bros which i knew about in advance ) this will be the 4th day he's been on the drink leaving me at home with LO and I cant be bothered anymore. Before anyone asks he doesnt have a drink problem he usually just drinks on a sat night it just so happened that he had a football do on sat night, cure on sunday, bros birthday monday and now today still not home.

Caroline_a

leos-mummy wrote: »

Honestly no I don't. Hes still not home ( he stayed the night at his bros which i knew about in advance ) this will be the 4th day he's been on the drink leaving me at home with LO and I cant be bothered anymore. Before anyone asks he doesnt have a drink problem he usually just drinks on a sat night it just so happened that he had a football do on sat night, cure on sunday, bros birthday monday and now today still not home.

What do you mean by that? (as in I don't understand, unless you mean hair of the ) He certainly sounds as if he has a drink problem to me - normal adults don't go out on the pi$$ for 4 nights like that when they have a family to support - apart from anything else, the cost must be horrendous!

leos-mummy

yeh hair of the dog. he doesnt drink every night but when he does drink he can quite happily sit up all night regardless of whether he has company... Ive asked him enough times to come up to bed etc but doesnt do it. He has to finish every last drop of drink, guaranteed there wont be anything left in morning. its a joke, i can buy a bottle of wine have a couple of glasses on sat then maybe not touch it again for a few days, he cant do that. he most definately drinks to get drunk. This weekend has been a complete joke and I really dont know where to go from here.

suki1964

leos-mummy wrote: »

yeh hair of the dog. he doesnt drink every night but when he does drink he can quite happily sit up all night regardless of whether he has company... Ive asked him enough times to come up to bed etc but doesnt do it. He has to finish every last drop of drink, guaranteed there wont be anything left in morning. its a joke, i can buy a bottle of wine have a couple of glasses on sat then maybe not touch it again for a few days, he cant do that. he must definately drinks to get drunk. This weekend has been a complete joke and I really dont know wher to go from here.

May I suggest you get on the phone to Al anon

He has a serious drink problem and you need help for you - not him

candygirl

I thought you meant he'd been to watch The Cure:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

jolfc

leos-mummy wrote: »

yeh hair of the dog. he doesnt drink every night but when he does drink he can quite happily sit up all night regardless of whether he has company... Ive asked him enough times to come up to bed etc but doesnt do it. He has to finish every last drop of drink, guaranteed there wont be anything left in morning. its a joke, i can buy a bottle of wine have a couple of glasses on sat then maybe not touch it again for a few days, he cant do that. he most definately drinks to get drunk. This weekend has been a complete joke and I really dont know where to go from here.

Your choice to put up with it, only you can change it by splitting up with him, dont want to sound harsh.:)

leos-mummy

candygirl wrote: »

I thought you meant he'd been to watch The Cure:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

LOL... we just say the cure round here, i dont know anyone who refers to it as hair of the dog, put a funny phrase to it however fact of the matter is he's still drinking

candygirl

leos-mummy wrote: »

LOL... we just say the cure round here, i dont know anyone who refers to it as hair of the dog, put a funny phrase to it however fact of the matter is he's still drinking

LOL trust me.Seriously hun, you need to whip his arris, and sort stuff out sooner rather than later, as it seems to me he is taking the mick at the mo:mad::mad:
Hope you get it sorted asap:A

Errata

If you're happy to bring your child up with a dedicated drinker in the house, that's your choice. I can assure you the child's life won't be a particularly happy one.
As you OH is only working part time, and you don't work, and he's clearly spending an unusual amount of money on booze, your child is going without things already.

leos-mummy

Im ashamed to say it but its kind of a case of sometimes i dont really want him but dont want anyone else to have him. He has kids to other women and i really dont want that for me and our son... i dont want my son having a step mother etc although i know that Im a stepmother myself at the minute. Also I worry about how he would react if i threw him out... when i met him he was sleeping on a mates sofa, drinking a lot and lost his job this was soon after a break up too. He isnt very sensible, i deal with all the finances partly because he's facing bankruptcy, up to his eyeballs in debt and no longer has a bank account. Its pathetic and I know it is, its certainly not the fairytale set up i dreamt of when i was little... husband, kids nice home (were not even married, maybe thats a good thing tho)