Heartbroken!

leos-mummy

So last night my OH went out with male friends. He never answered his phone all night nor replied to any texts. He only returned home at 5.30am and I discover that the ex he was 'sexting' 2 years ago has been in contact with him...
Advice please?!!

Bambywamby

Put your foot down - he stops contacting the ex and changes his mobile number or it's over. It's unacceptable behaviour and you shouldn't have to put up with it. x x

go_cat

Do you trust him

Did the sexting before go further or did you discover it.

Personally I think it is completely out of order and i would be telling him this.

Don't be a pushover he cannot have his cake and eat it... although remember at this stage you don't even know if he saw her last night

You need to have a serious chat

CH27

How did you find out about the ex?

You need to have a serious talk with him about his priorities.
Changing his mobile number means nothing. He can easily give the new number to her.

Bambywamby

CH27 wrote: »

How did you find out about the ex?

You need to have a serious talk with him about his priorities.
Changing his mobile number means nothing. He can easily give the new number to her.

It shows he is willing to make the effort of no contact with the ex that he was previously sex texting. If he isn't even willing to do that - the relationship may not be worth fighting for.

Emmzi

advice depends on how your relationship is otherwise, and what he was doing until 5:30.

martinthebandit

and an answer from the blokes perspective

leos-mummy wrote: »

So last night my OH went out with male friends. He never answered his phone all night nor replied to any texts.

So he is out with his mates and his partner keeps texting and ringing him, he his going to get plenty of stick etc about being under the thumb etc if he answers it, so he won't

leos-mummy wrote: »

He only returned home at 5.30am and I discover that the ex he was 'sexting' 2 years ago has been in contact with him...
Advice please?!!

The important bit is 'what was his response to the contact?'

Bottom line is though, if you don't trust him, dump him and find a partner you can trust.

If you cannot trust a partner there is almost no chance of a long term future.

Kimberley82

In what form was the contact with the ex?

Staying out till 5.30 is only a problem if he was doing something he shouldnt.

pinkshoes

leos-mummy wrote: »

So last night my OH went out with male friends. He never answered his phone all night nor replied to any texts.

Why were you texting and phoning him all night?!?!

leos-mummy wrote: »

I discover that the ex he was 'sexting' 2 years ago has been in contact with him...
Advice please?!!

Ok, so she has been in contact with him... did he contact her back? How do you know she's been in contact?

Sounds like you have trust issues with this guy. Relationships are pointless without trust.

gingin_2

I agree with Pinkshoes. Why bother him when he's on a night out with his friends, I wouldn't call OH if I knew he was having a blowout with his mates and would likewise be a bit peeved if he felt the need to call AND text me. It all seems a bit clingy.

It's the same with the "sexting", did he contact her and how do you know that she had got back in touch?

bluenoseam

From the male perspective, there is no bigger annoyance than being "stalked" on a night out with the guys, he's out - if you don't trust him enough to not be cheating on you then the relationship is hardly working, i never could understand the theory behind people who do that to OH's on a night out!