Heartbroken!

the_cat

Errr, how did you 'discover' the contact with the ex?

Seems unlikely that he told you given what you have written, so I assume you sneaked a look at his phone. That screams lack of trust, espec alongside the constant attempts to contact him while he was out

You have serious trust issues that need to be addressed. By doing what you currently are, you are actively encouraging him to stray (ie: he isn't trusted regardless, so why bother to stay faithful). You clearly haven't got over what happened before........ can you honestly say that you ever will?

leos-mummy

We always text eachother on nights out... yes i done some phone snooping and found they had been in contact. I dont want to be made a fool out of for if the shoe was on the other foot he would hit the roof.

balletshoes

leos-mummy wrote: »

So last night my OH went out with male friends. He never answered his phone all night nor replied to any texts. He only returned home at 5.30am and I discover that the ex he was 'sexting' 2 years ago has been in contact with him...
Advice please?!!

how many times did you try to call/text him while he was out? when did you expect him to get home? if he was out in a club 5.30 wouldn't be that late really, the club would still be open? you say ex has been in contact with him - has he been contacting her too, or is it all one-sided from her?

what aspect of your OH's evening out last night has upset you most?

leos-mummy

lol the club closes it 1.30am so he should have been home well before half 5! text and rang him at end of night when club was over so he could tell me what was happening... plans for coming home etc. We've had problems before were he tells me he'll be home but ends up returning the next morning after an all day bender... hardly appropriate for a man with kids. I wouldnt get away with it.

Kimberley82

leos-mummy wrote: »

lol the club closes it 1.30am so he should have been home well before half 5! text and rang him at end of night when club was over so he could tell me what was happening... plans for coming home etc. We've had problems before were he tells me he'll be home but ends up returning the next morning after an all day bender... hardly appropriate for a man with kids. I wouldnt get away with it.

Have you asked him where he was?

leos-mummy

He's sleeping. He cant speak 2 words let alone string together a sentence

Kimberley82

leos-mummy wrote: »

He's sleeping. He cant speak 2 words let alone string together a sentence

I think all you can do it let him sleep it off. Try and calm down so you can have a rational conversation when he does.

leos-mummy

I know, easier said than done though

jackieglasgow

If he is that p1ssed, there's not much chance he was with another woman, is there? Think about it it logically. I think there's a good chance the two things aren't linked, and its just your insecurity over his previous behaviour which is making you understandably paranoid. Speak to him later when he is sober, and ask him what where and when, and go from there.

Kimberley82

leos-mummy wrote: »

I know, easier said than done though

Oh I agree. Any idea what sort of time he will get up?

Is there someone who can have your son?