Heartbroken!

carolan78

I would have text and tried to contact my Husband too if he hadn't returned home, purely because I worry about him and would need to know he was safe. This issue had been a battle in our years we have been together because to me it is just considerate to let your nearest and dearest know your alive and kicking so they can rest well at night.

He only really understood and got why I needed a text to know he was ok when he was badly beaten up when he was trying to help a friend (he was on a military base and 6 men decided it would be fun to kick the hell out of his friend, luckily for the friend my hubby walked passed and tried to help because the friend would surely have died had they not turned their attention to my hubby). He was left with his body black and purple head to toe and internal injuries. He had also passed out, I knew something was wrong and kept trying to contact him finally at about 4am someone else answered his phone and told me what had happened but reassured me he was been looked after (I was 300 miles away with no form of transport0.

Now no matter how drunk he is he will always let me know he is ok and he knows if he doesn't then I will have more than a few choice words with him when he returns home. I would never dream of texting and phoning him all evening while he is out but surely even the males on the forum can not see the request if a text when the club kicks out to say I'm on my way home or it's going to be a late one but I'm alive is unreasonable?

As for the ex I would leave her out of the equation for now it seems your letting insecurities from his past sexting blow up how your feeling now deal with the two issues seperately because it doesn't sound like they are connected at the minute.

leos-mummy

just to clear up I wasnt textin him all night. Rang him at end of nite when club was over to find out what was happening and to check he was safe. I stay in contact when Im out and no way would I get away with the same behaviour. He's been asked to leave, purely because he cant see that he's done anything wrong... offered no explanation or apology

thorsoak

Right - you know that he has been contacted by an ex - so why do you not text the ex back - and warn her off?

CH27

Whoa :eek:
Asking him to leave is a massive over reaction.

You both need to sit down & really talk to each other about what you expect form each other.

leos-mummy

thorsoak wrote: »

Right - you know that he has been contacted by an ex - so why do you not text the ex back - and warn her off?

It was a private mail on FB and yes shes been warned off... although she was warned off before but obviously hasnt listened too well

leos-mummy

CH27 wrote: »

Whoa :eek:
Asking him to leave is a massive over reaction.

You both need to sit down & really talk to each other about what you expect form each other.

Not really we've had problems with him not coming home before, switching his phone off and leaving me in distress. Nearly finished us... he's made many promises not to do it again but always breaks them. When asked how he would feel if i done it to him his reply is- 'I wouldnt be with you'
Its double standards... he does it because he knows he'll get away with it, that I'm too insecure to throw him out and actually mean it

make_me_wise

I do hate to say this but she isn't going to listen to you telling her to back off. It would have to come from your husband. She is someone capable of playing away behind her husbands back with your husband. She doesn't give tuppence for your thoughts or feelings. All she is worried about is what she wants.

globetraveller

sorry to hear that. Its just the straw that broke the camel's back isn't it? Do you know the men he was supposedly out with? Are you friendly with their OHs? It might be worth having a chat with one and dropping in a bit about what on earth where they up to till 5.30am?

PasturesNew

It's just like JK, but online

leos-mummy

globetraveller wrote: »

sorry to hear that. Its just the straw that broke the camel's back isn't it? Do you know the men he was supposedly out with? Are you friendly with their OHs? It might be worth having a chat with one and dropping in a bit about what on earth where they up to till 5.30am?

Na its his mates from football so some are younger than him and majority are single. This is what annoys me... he acts like a single man with no responsibilities so why does he bother to stay in a relationship with me... he cant have it both ways