Heartbroken!

leos-mummy

your right and its shameful, i certainly wasnt raised that way and i dont want it for my son... its a scary decision for me

leos-mummy

DDpimp wrote: »

In my oppinon unless this is the one true love of your life...Dump him, not to will only weaken yourself in his and your own eye's.If this individual is your one true love then you should fight to the bitter end.

I do love him, I dont know how I would react if we split for good or if he was able to move on and i couldnt. im very jealous and insecure and il be the first to admit it

PurpleD

This thread is getting ridiculous now ! It seems that the last 11 pages have gone from one problem to another first it's messages from an ex then no response to text messages etc , then he is punching above his weight , then he does not have a drink problem but clearly he has ! Rent money is spent on drink not on their child but appearently this tool is a good father :mad: and now the op is not sure if she loves him etc , this is just going to continue going from one problem to the next and its clear the op is not going to leave this useless waste of space , its pointless replying , i wonder what will be next !!!

leos-mummy

Im done now, had enough. thanks

property.advert

If my other half pestered me when I was out and threw a wobbly about me coming back at any o'clock in the morning I think she'd be the one getting her marching orders.

We're grown men, not 5 year old. If we want to go out we will and you'll just have to accept it.

The guy wants to grow a set and tell her where to get off ordering him around.

leos-mummy

stayin out to 530 is hardly appropriate with a 23m old child. neither is going on a 4 day bender. i dont do it to him so it shouldnt be done to me

euronorris

suki1964 wrote: »

Everything Should be fine?????

And in an ideal world parents arent drunks with no regard for thier offspring ( he already has three from other relationships ) when they think its ok to booze away the income support away.

And lets just hope and pray they this child isnt left alone with the father when he thinks " just one wont hurt" and then becomes too drunk to realise the child has matches, or has wandered off out the house

Calm down! I obviously hadn't completely caught up on the thread when I replied to you last night.

Nor have I seen all of the other threads by the OP and, when I first posted, there was no mention of this drinking being unusually regular or always out of control. Clearly, now we've had some more info, I wouldn't recommend my original suggestion.

Jackie47

As somebody who was married to an alcoholic (I was young and thought I could change him!)...let me tell you that your partner DOES have a drink problem!

This is how my married life started...luckily he left me after 7 years of utter hell for another woman. I couldn't have any form of alcohol in the house, he would drink until it was finished. I remember his brother buying him a large bottle of whisky for his birthday (he was no better!) and my ex sat there and finished in about 4 hours :eek:

According to him, he had no problem with drink, even though my daughter and I went without because of it. That other woman did me a huge favour by stealing him and I didn't realise just how good life was until he left. Believe me, the weight that you carry on your shoulders will be immense!

Leave him, it is scary but you and your son deserve sooo much better, trust me. You will be scarring your son and yourself, even now, 30 years later, I don't tolerate drunks, they scare me because of what I had to put up with.

Oh and as an aside, the ex died 7 years ago, age 43, through his drink and drugs problem!!!! He was on his 5th wife and after he left me, the mental abuse that I suffered turned into physical abuse for the other 4 wives!

Jackie

Errata

leos-mummy wrote: »

i dont willingly give him the rent money.

So what was going on? Was he holding a knife to your throat? Threatening to throw the baby in Belfast Lough? Or what?
Giving him the money which you have been given to keep a roof over your son's head is a pretty clear sign of being an unfit mother. Unless you're frightened of him, you have no excuse.

kathy206

I wish you luck LM -I think you are going to need it. If he deigns to come home today then I'm sure you'll have a few choice words and then all will be the same. I feel sorry for your little one, I really do.:(