Grandchild excluded from will.

shy-but-need-help

I would ask outright, and make sure they do realise he is biologically your husbands child also. If they are older they may genuinely have forgotten or could possibly not have linked the fact the son your husband had 18 years ago is the same boy as the son you had when your husband and you got together. My nan is absolutely useless at remembering which of her grandchildren & great-grandchildren are biological or step ones or who's half brother with who- she just remembers names and which house they need to go back to!

Could it possibly be when you got back together with DH you just assumed they'd realise he was a biological child of your DH and it was never spelt out to them?

For what it's worth my kids are the only ones out of 15 grandkids not set to inherit from DH's father and it doesn't bother me because my hope is they'll be doing well enough in life by that age to not need his money.

mountainofdebt

I must admit I'm surprised as well that the OP got to see the will before it needed to be activated - usually the executor only gets asked beforehand if they will be prepared to do the job and where the original is kept.

I also think Robin's suggestion of why the exclusion has been made - though how you bring up the subject I don't know.....'hey mum and dad you know you think X isn't my son, well guess what' seems a little too direct !

As you have seen the will are the grandchildren named by names?

too_much_debt

I have only read the first two pages so sorry if someone has already suggested this but I read up to where you explained about how you met your husband and had a child, split up and you married someone else and had two children and when that marriage ended you got back together with the father of your eldest child (the child that has been excluded).

This made me think that maybe they have left your eldest son out of their Will so that your other two children don't feel bad when he gets an inheritance and they don't, maybe that is why they have included you and not your son.

As I said, not sure if someone else has suggested this so sorry if they have but as your other two children who are not related to them are younger than the son who is their grandchild maybe they want to save your other children from being upset if he got something and they didn't.

NickyBat

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I must admit I'm surprised as well that the OP got to see the will before it needed to be activated - usually the executor only gets asked beforehand if they will be prepared to do the job and where the original is kept.

I didn't even know i was an executor until i got a phone call from the solicitor after the person had died!!!!

Deep_In_Debt

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I must admit I'm surprised as well that the OP got to see the will before it needed to be activated - usually the executor only gets asked beforehand if they will be prepared to do the job and where the original is kept.

I'm Executor of my uncle and aunt's Wills and know exactly what's in them.

clairec79

How old are the other grandchildren? Is it possible that although your son is 18 they are still viewing him as a dependent (especially if he is still at school/college) so 'his' share is directed to his father and the other adult grandchildren have been left theirs direct?

Wilma33

Were the grandparent in contact with this grandchild in the years that you were married to someone else? Or did they not meet him until he was older?

meritaten

why are people surprised that the executors have seen the will? I know exactly what is in my mums will and so does my bro and sis! we are all executors! and the grandchildren are treated equally and so are the great grandchildren (and provision has been made so that if any more great-grandchildren come along in future, then mum doesnt have to redo her will! it was quite straightforward and although its not a large estate at least all her kids, grandkids etc will recieve something and it will be equal with others!
I would hope its an oversight - but to expect people to be executors then leave out their children is a bit much - I would definately be asking why - and if I didnt like the answer, then informing them that they should find new executors and leaving us out of the will altogether.

jetta_wales

I'd be hurt for my child too and annoyed if my OH didn't feel hurt enough to want to say something about it too.
I had a situation with my ex where his BIL did something quite dreadful and also illegal to me and yet my ex never once told his family about it or said a single word about it ever, he didn't even get angry. Couple years later after we were split I told his parents all about their SIL myself. If somebody in my family offended my partner I'd be !!!!ed about it and I'd ensure they knew about it too. I'd expect the same from him also. My ex couldn't even stick up for himself yet alone his family, another of the reasons that he is my ex

Plans_all_plans

OP, how do you know the contents of the will?

I am the executor of 2 different pople's wills and I know the content of neither. I have been told where in their houses they are kept, but I've never laid eyes on them personally.

Did your in-laws tell you the contents of the will or did you have a look?