Grandchild excluded from will.

CH27

onlyroz wrote: »

Surely, if your grandad wanted this he would have stated it explicitly in his will?

None of us saw the will before he died.
He used one of the Will making servies that were around years ago & the issue of predeceasing wasn't mentioned in the will.
If you don't specify about predeceasing, everything goes to the benificiary.

jetta_wales

onlyroz wrote: »

Surely, if your grandad wanted this he would have stated it explicitly in his will?

You don't necessarily think you should account for your child dying before you do when writing your will. My OH's great Aunt left money to all her nieces and nephews but his Dad had died in his thirties unexpectedly and not long before the great aunt did. The money then went just to the others instead but they decided to still put aside from they had the money that would have gone to his Dad and they put it in trust for his children till they were 18.

Unfortunately nit everybody is quite so decent though but nobody wants to think about accounting for their own childrens deaths in their wills even if it may indeed be wise to.

picnmix

My grandpa passed away, we were very close, he had lots of grandchildren, but didnt leave to all the grandkids, myself included, didnt bother me in the slightest, I am in a reasonable position, nice home etc, the grandkids who did get a share were struggling more, and needed a bit of a boost. Would not have a clue what was in any of my family members wills and would not like to know either. Money and wills in families cause all sorts of problems and fall outs, I've witnessed them with my husbands extended family, so I am happy to stay way clear am happy to live my life supporting myself and family.

Personally I would not question anyone's decision on what they put in their will, it is their choice, not mine.

Mojisola

picnmix wrote: »

My grandpa passed away, we were very close, he had lots of grandchildren, but didnt leave to all the grandkids, myself included, didnt bother me in the slightest, I am in a reasonable position, nice home etc, the grandkids who did get a share were struggling more, and needed a bit of a boost.

I think that if you can see a good reason, like this example, for not including some children or grandchildren in the will, it isn't a problem.

If you were also struggling and still hadn't received anything, you'd be most unusual not to be upset about it.

angelsmomma

RacyRed wrote: »

To be honest, I think that using the term "the other two" speaks volumes about your attitude to your children.

If I were your eldest daughter I'd be very disappointed that you had done that yet not countered it with something to make me feel equal in your affections, or at least discussed your intentions with before writing your will. Who will your son's guardian be if anything happened to you and your husband? Eldest daughter by any chance?

What happens if your son grows up and makes a success of his life before your time comes, will you change your will as the circumstances have changed?


It isn't about the money.

My daughter is on her second marriage and received a very good divorce settlement so has no need of a share in this house.

When I die his father (my ex) would be his guardian and should he die his fathers first wife would be his guardian as he has siblings that live with her and they all have a good relationship.

My son has only met his sister around 10 times in his life as she lives some distance from us so they do not have a close relationship, she has never shown much interest in him to be honest. When I told her I was pregnant she said "your not keeping it are you" and was not happy at all when I said I was.

I have not written the will yet I was discussing it with her before writing it.

angelsmomma

pinkclouds wrote: »

Oh dear. That's quite sad really, for her to feel that way about her baby sibling over two decades her junior. Is she the only daughter? Perhaps you could tell her she will inherit your jewellery (or something significant personal items) to demonstrate that each child will be receiving something relevant and personal to them? Was she very jealous when he was born? (I note she is the eldest - yet another sibling to dilute mom's attention.)

It is sad and yes she was jealous when he was born.

It is only the house that I am leaving to my son. The rest will be shared equally between the three of them and of course the jewelry will go to my daughters, they already have the wedding and eternity rings from when I was married to their father.

Artytarty

angelmomma, are you using this as an opportunity to punish your daughter for saying that?
I presume you still love her?
By that I do not mean that giving money equates to love but to parity of esteem.
I think you need to be very careful not to cause long term damage. If the worst happened and you died would you not like to think that your daughter might become more involved in your sons life/

mountainofdebt

CH27 wrote: »

None of us saw the will before he died.
He used one of the Will making servies that were around years ago & the issue of predeceasing wasn't mentioned in the will.
If you don't specify about predeceasing, everything goes to the benificiary.

I'm sorry but I would disagree with this statement.

In fact I would say that unless the will specifically states that the share that would have gone to the predeceasing beneficiary is to be shared amongst the surviving beneficiaries, then the share that would have gone to your mum (in this case) should have gone to you and your siblings.

hcb42

Time I wrote a will I think!

Mojisola

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I'm sorry but I would disagree with this statement.

In fact I would say that unless the will specifically states that the share that would have gone to the predeceasing beneficiary is to be shared amongst the surviving beneficiaries, then the share that would have gone to your mum (in this case) should have gone to you and your siblings.

This is what I understood would happen, too.