Single mum, want to move 300 miles away..

katepnlo

Just wanted to say, you don't need nursing for midwifery degree just certain gcse grades,evidence of recent study or doing an access course. You just then need to show you are the right sort of person at the interview
You obviously want change in your life and sometimes you need to take the plunge.

I can see your plans are to improve life for yourself and your son and i wish you luck doing so.

My only concerns would be giving up a local authority property...i know down here they are virtualy impossible to get and my second thought was about your childs natural father?

Besides that, to do midwifery as a mother you need a very strong support network,whilst you study and once you are working. (I was due to start this April but have step children living with us now aswell as my own,so have had to put it on hold)
But what an amazing thing to do with your life! i can't think of a more rewarding job

I haven't read the thread fully as i should be doing other stuff lol but there has to be a way to swap your flat? even if its just to get you one closer to the area you want to be in? It will give you security for yourself and child and then once things have settled and you are sure you could rent a place together?

vroombroom

Katie, I am from the Wirral originally and moved 300 miles away from there 18 months ago:D

I'd suggest saving as much as poss and getting your fella to get the local papers every week to see if something private comes up. Bromborough/PS and Bebington are quite expensive to rent in - have you looked at Birkenhead/Rock Ferry? Its relatively cheap, has a fab town centre thats been improved in the last few years and has access to Liverpool/Chester etc x

Even consider Wallasey - again, cheaper to rent and good transport links x

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-18924108.html

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-18810255.html

this is lush and the accept DSS
http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-33458990.html

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-33900635.html

hermum

Have you looked into the possibility of a 3 way swap, giving up a secure tenancy should the very last resort.
Private renting could mean you having to move every year or so if the LL decides to sell. The cost involved in that will be really high, financially & possibly to you child when they start school, if you can't find accommodation close by.
Where in the country are you now?

Superbiatch

DPJames wrote: »

Sorry, i don't believe it.

Thats fine, we dont want your sort anyway.

Superbiatch

KatieVA wrote: »

Tis the Wirral, around the Bromborough/Bebington/Port Sunlight areas.

Port Sunlight is beautiful

G_M

KatieVA wrote: »

I've looked into every avenue and my only option is to privately rent, so I'll be giving up my housing association property. I'll need to save up for a deposit. They do offer a rent deposit guarentee scheme up there, but it's only for people who are homeless/in emergency situations or have lived in the area for more than a certain amount of time. The amount of housing benefit I can get is a maximum of £450 per month which is fine, I can rent somewhere for that.

Then there's the problem of getting all our stuff up there. For a removal van I'm looking at over £500! I'm wondering if it's just worth selling most of my belongings and keeping the bare essentials...and then using the money I make to send everything up in boxes via courier?

Basically, if anyone has moved halfway across the country, any hints tips and advice would be brilliant! Thanks very much

Deposit: 1.5 months rent = £675
1st months rent = £450
Hire van + petrol + train (after returning van = £4-600
Letting agency reservation/reference fees: £1 - 200
Utilitiies: final bills and connection charges: £100 ?
New home set up (furniture/white goods/etc - there's always something!) = £1-300?

Your rental options will be limited by being on Benefits, (and credit history?). Many landlords will want a Guarantor or 6 months rent up front.

Bear in mind you'll probobly start with a 6 month contract, and complete insecurity after that. Landlord might decide to sell the property/find a new tenant/increase the rent.....

If you struggle financially and fall behind with the rent you'll be evicted = homeless. (INTENTIONALLY homeless = no emergency housing fro council).

Whilst understanding your desire to move, giving up a secure home for the above is a huge risk.

Best advce? Find a way to earn more and save more, to give yourself much more security before moving.

Whilst you may not want 'relationship advice', I have to ask: if the man involved is important enough to you to consider moving nearer him, are you important enough to him to help with the move?
Will he not help either by letting you move in with him, or by being a 'Guarantor' (a big financial undertaking for him), or by giving you (I doubt it would be lending) some of the costs involved?

Even moving in with him temporarily for the first 3-4 months would allow you save a bit before getting an independant place again.

DPJames

hermum wrote: »

Have you looked into the possibility of a 3 way.
Where in the country are you now?

:rotfl:


OP, save up for a year, and i mean SERIOUSLY save up. Get as much money together as you can. In a years time your relationship will also have changed/developed so you'll have a greater understanding of where you stand. If after a year you're even more enthusiastic then go for it. Just move and be happy. PLUS, by then you might want to move in with him so it'll be a lot less hassle.
But anyway, have you considerd a 3 way? And how come you're with a bloke 300 miles away in the first place?

Bronnie

If you do relocate to Wirral, planning ahead, seriously worth living somewhere with easy access to a Merseyrail Wirral Line train station. That will be your quickest, cheapest and most frequent access to Liverpool, should you decide to study there.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Merseyrail_Map.svg

Oldernotwiser

Tammer wrote: »

We have a problem in this country that people generally don't move around the country so it's admirable that you're considering doing so.

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I would agree with you about moving around the country to take up a job or even moving to an area where there are more jobs, but moving to an unemployment black spot like Merseyside without a job or accommodation to go to seems to me to be the height of irresponsibility.

As the relationship isn't even at the stage of commitment where living together is planned, this just takes the foolishness to another level.

Oldernotwiser

KatieVA wrote: »

I am a very independant person and I don't rely on anyone, both physically and emotionally. I have gone it alone with my son for almost 2 years and I've never had any help from anyone - not even when he was a newborn.

That is a totally ridiculous thing for someone living on benefits to say!