Single mum, want to move 300 miles away..

Dazi

I am a lot older than you and whilst I cannot give practical advice, I can tell you about my circumstances and the emotional side of moving away from family.

8 years ago I met my OH on a chat site. We quickly decided that due the distance (about 250 miles) we had to decided if we thought it would work...if so why wait. So I moved to be with him. My kids were older teens, son lived with ex, DD was redcoat. Parents were in good health.

Fast forward 8 years, parents both in ill health, DD is now married and has my 3 beautiful granddaughters. Son getting married this year.

So looking at it, do I regret moving to be with my OH, NO
Do I wish I still lived near my family YES

I know you were asking on the practical side, but the emotional side has to come into it to.

I think that at your sons age, the move will make no difference. For what it is worth I think that as you have got this far as to asking questions on this forum you have already decided that this is what you want to do, and good luckxx I hope someone who is more experienced than me can help you with the practicalities but what I really want to say is, if it feels good, go with it, and please come back and let us know how it is going. xx

halfone

KatieVA wrote: »

Then there's the problem of getting all our stuff up there. For a removal van I'm looking at over £500! I'm wondering if it's just worth selling most of my belongings and keeping the bare essentials...and then using the money I make to send everything up in boxes via courier?

Basically, if anyone has moved halfway across the country, any hints tips and advice would be brilliant! Thanks very much

Have you costed the courier?

I don't know how practical this would be with a 19 month old, but...

If you're willing to do the donkeywork of packing, loading and driving yourself (or can get someone to help you) you should be looking at removal costs of way below £500.

Try googling this: "self drive hire prices in (county/area)"

Hope that helps.

Blackpool_Saver

I too am wary about the move, BUT the only thing I can think
of is a social fund loan to cover the moving expenses........

BungleGirl

If you are not in a hurry to move you could join a local credit union. You have to save regularly with them and after a certain amount of time you can apply for a loan (usually based on a multiple of your savings). You leave your savings where they are and they come up with a repayment method where part repays (the very low interest) loan and a further small amount adds to your savings. This way, when you have paid off the loan you still have your savings. Credit unions are fabulous!

tommie1shunt

Money side, your problem, you ain't got it you ain't moving. The moving side, you gotta weigh up how much stuff you got, but you can squeeze a lot in a Luton transit. 300 miles plus loading gotta be a 2 day rental, assuming you cant drive and young man will after drive, you can factor in 25 mpg and a rental fee for the van off £100. Very rough fuel figure at todays prices would be £120 plus.
Reckon you can do it for £250 ish.

bluebeary

if your are looking to have your own place up there, instead of privately renting, is there not a scheme where you can house swap with someone also in a housing association or something similar

i hope things work out for you with your new man but if they dont you have to keep your options kind of open should you wish to return home again ?

go_cat

Is your OH in a position to help you out financially either with the move costs or a deposit if needed?

Tammer

Hi,

OP, from what you've said it seems a perfectly sensible idea to be thinking of moving as it's ultimately better for your family (you and your son) and that's the priority.

Some of the other posters are right that it will take a bit of money to move. If you have possessions that you don't need, then certainly consider selling them.

We have a problem in this country that people generally don't move around the country so it's admirable that you're considering doing so.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

DPJames

Superbiatch wrote: »

Yes, believe it or not there are some beautiful areas of Merseyside.

Sorry, i don't believe it.

DVardysShadow

tenmah wrote: »

The way I read it though, is she isn't looking for an answer on whether she should move but just how she goes about it?

PosterA wrote:

I want to take a long walk on a pier which might be rather short

PosterB wrote:

Then you should run, to make sure you reach the end.

I think people should call it as they see it. If they think OP is making a mistake, they should say so. If OP only wants certain answers, she should put up a poll.