Single mum, want to move 300 miles away..

Gigglepig

KatieVA wrote: »

Sadly, after a work focused interview at the Job Centre, I was told it's not worth me going back to work as I'll be worse off than I am now. It's absolutely unbelievable.

I'm hoping to go to uni next year to start a nursing course to get me into midwifery, at least there's something to look forward to.

This is strange advice, since it would surely just depend on how much you'd make.

It sounds like a good idea to get some qualifications to improve job prospects. If you are looking to go to uni perhaps it makes sense to postpone the move until then, so you don't potentially need to move twice just over a year. Or, perhaps you could start studies this year in Merseyside?

KatieVA

Gigglepig wrote: »

This is strange advice, since it would surely just depend on how much you'd make.

It sounds like a good idea to get some qualifications to improve job prospects. If you are looking to go to uni perhaps it makes sense to postpone the move until then, so you don't potentially need to move twice just over a year. Or, perhaps you could start studies this year in Merseyside?

That was part of the plan! There are 2 universities in the area that offer the course I'd be looking to do. I was thinking of waiting till next year and moving up here and starting the course then.

Tiddlywinks

Why can't the nice young man move closer to you rather than you uproot your life?

KatieVA

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Why can't the nice young man move closer to you rather than you uproot your life?

Well we've both weighed up the advantages and disadvantages on both sides...

Where I live....it's crap, ugly, nasty area...I don't have any family to stick around for. I've wanted to move somewhere new for a long time.

Where he lives...he has a huge, lovely family who are all amazing and really, really lovely people. It's an absolutely beautiful, stunning area, really peaceful and there are loads of things for my little one to do. Great nurseries and schools near by. 2 brilliant universities if I end up doing the course I want to do. There aren't any disadvantages at all!

shellsuit

Can you register on the homeswappers site? There may just be someone who is willing to do a swap from my neck of the woods, to yours.

I wouldn't do it, not in a million years, but only because I've got no balls lol.

The best of luck in whatever you choose to do x


P.S. PasturesNew, what do you mean Merseyside of all places? There are some gorgeous parts of Merseyside! But, as usual, the place gets the p!ss taken out of it.

DVardysShadow

KatieVA wrote: »

Not sure where you got "random bloke" from, I've been with him since last year! It's a decision I've thought long and hard about and it's something I've taken very seriously. "Random" certainly doesn't come into it.

Also, it's a flat not a house. And happiness is much more important to me than keeping a sodding council flat. I've never been a materialistic person. I'd rather live in a tent if it meant I was happy.

"Merseyside of all places"? Yes, it's a beautiful place.

If you have nothing helpful to say, not sure why you're wasting your sunday evening on my thread, posting useless comments. But thanks for your time all the same.

Looks like you have made up your mind what answer you want. So it is you who is wasting people's time as you know the answer you want. And it is not your thread alone. And the comment about saving money for 2 years was helpful. In my book.

Oldernotwiser

You don't seem to have any idea how insecure the private rented sector can be You'd be crazy to give up a secure tenancy to move into this sector; have you looked at a council exchange?

Darlyd

Does he have his own place?

Reason I ask is, and I don't care what people say about me, IS I moved nearly 300 miles to be with my now husband (but things are not working out :-(.) Anyway before I moved I stayed with him in his home on and off for a few years, then I stayed with him for 6 months straight then gave my council house up. And we married ... Was all sweet BUT I do regret it. Even though I wanted to move town cus I hated where I was, I am in the process of moving out, Love where I live because I have a job I love and friends.

Anyway that was my story perhaps it would work for you.

What about looking on google for home swaps, I found loads of people who wanted to move to my area, but I just ended up moving in with him, You may found someone who wants to live in your area from where you want to move too? Worth a go. Some sites you pay for, but are worth it.

Oh and it cost me just shy of 1k to move hmph

KatieVA

shellsuit wrote: »

Can you register on the homeswappers site? There may just be someone who is willing to do a swap from my neck of the woods, to yours.

I wouldn't do it, not in a million years, but only because I've got no balls lol.

The best of luck in whatever you choose to do x


P.S. PasturesNew, what do you mean Merseyside of all places? There are some gorgeous parts of Merseyside! But, as usual, the place gets the p!ss taken out of it.

Yup, did that months ago! Haven't had a single match

Gigglepig

KatieVA wrote: »

Sadly yes, I did expect a few ignorant, judgemental replies!

There is no need to be snappy and defensive. Everyone isn't going to agree with you, and people may read your posts in slightly different ways.

KatieVA wrote: »

Of course it's important to me, it would be slightly worrying if it wasn't!

And...did I say anything about making myself and my child homeless? No, I'm enquiring about us moving to a different area! Why have my parenting decisions and priorities been brought into this? Very strange indeed.

Your post seems a bit self centered - you talk about your own happiness, but there is no mention of what is best for your son. Moving across the country could be quite a big deal in terms of support network (family, friends, people you know and can rely on) Since you do not seem to have the finances in place or savings for a rainy day, moving could also suggest financial uncertainty.

Speaking from experience, moving across the country costs a lot of money, not just the removal van, and deposit on the house, but you may also have other up front costs on utilities bills etc. Therefore, if you do not even have the deposit saved up yet, my advice would be to stay put until you have the deposit and removal costs, and a decent buffer.

Moving = costs and uncertainty. In other words, if you do not have savings towards the deposit, and struggle to save 10 pounds a week, do you really want/need less stability? Is that in your son's best interests?