Single mum, want to move 300 miles away..

asbokid

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

3 of my grandparents and both of my parents were born in or around Merseyside. They all left (-:

Same here. My relatives left Merseyside when it became clear there was precious little left to steal.

asbokid

KatieVA wrote: »

Not sure where you got "random bloke" from, I've been with him since last year! It's a decision I've thought long and hard about and it's something I've taken very seriously. "Random" certainly doesn't come into it.

Can you post up a photo of him? I think I might know him from Walton gaol. Was he ever on B wing?

Morglin

KatieVA wrote: »

Not sure where you got "random bloke" from, I've been with him since last year! It's a decision I've thought long and hard about and it's something I've taken very seriously. "Random" certainly doesn't come into it.

Also, it's a flat not a house. And happiness is much more important to me than keeping a sodding council flat. I've never been a materialistic person. I'd rather live in a tent if it meant I was happy.

"Merseyside of all places"? Yes, it's a beautiful place.

If you have nothing helpful to say, not sure why you're wasting your sunday evening on my thread, posting useless comments. But thanks for your time all the same.

Have you tried something like homeswap?

That way, you could keep in social housing.

http://www.ukhomeswap.co.uk/

http://www.homeswaplist.co.uk/

Lin

greenface

asbokid wrote: »

Same here. My relatives left Merseyside when it became clear there was precious little left to steal.

Well i hope they found somewhere with lots of things to steal.


Wales hey the place where not every person with a full beard is actually a man. You can put lipstick on a sheep and its still a sheep.

greenface

asbokid wrote: »

Can you post up a photo of him? I think I might know him from Walton gaol. Was he ever on B wing?

Have you stayed on B wing I know people (&you do too) thats been on B wing . Not nice but its only as bad as other wings in other prisons.

how come your up posting at 4am with sock on your hands

RAS

KatieVA wrote: »

As I said, there are 2 universities nearby up in Merseyside that do the course I'm wanting to take at some point. So if I decide to do it, the option is there too.

Katie

I think you need to check out the requirements for the courses you want to take up at some point.

It is not a matter of whether you decide to do it; so much as a matter of whether you can get a place on one of the most competative courses in the country. There will be 15-20 applicants for every place and you need a very good set of grades on your Access course or three very good A levels including Biology or Human Biology to stand a chance of getting an offer.

MaureenCornwall

If your heart is set on going into Nursing, well done ! Keep putting adverts via Homeswap and I believe there is a scheme where you can bid for properties in an area you want, check it out via your local council. Patience in the moving, something will come up sometimes it takes a little longer. You are right in being near the area that you can do your Nursing in, in the meantime I think you have to do a one year course before acceptance into the Nursing & Midwifery College for Maths and English but if you have the correct criteria you can bypass this, but check it out.
I know people that are kicking themselves from giving up their council places to go private sector the rents are so much higher they wish they had never done it. Once your accepted for Nusing during the first 3 years you get placements all over for different hospitals and the hours are diabolical especially for childcare, this is from personal experience. Shame you don't have some loving family back up to help support you and your dear son. You sound like you have got your head screwed on, not moving in together is a wise move, good to wait till you have done your Nursing, got a job for a year then see how you feel, lots can change - All the best for the future to you and your son.

dizziblonde

Brutally - unless you can get a home swap or up the social housing list very quickly (got more chance of an ice cream in hell) - you don't have the money to do this at the moment. Even on a shoestring with every friend you have roped in so you can do it by yourself - you'd need probably one of the decent sized vans, petrol (so plan on a mortgage for that lol) and the bills overlap and general financial pain with a new place. Plus private renting is, for many many people - craptacular. You have no security past the time on your tenancy, you've got a variety of landlords of different degrees of morals, when the market picks back up they may well want to sell from under you... and you're on benefits so lots of landlords won't take you. You also lose the ability to decorate, to own pets... all those little things that mount up and irritate after years.

I can't criticise for wanting to relocate to be with someone - my fella did it for me - but, and this is the big but - he made sure he had a job to go to and somewhere to go back to if it didn't work out - and that was as a young, relatively tie-free man. You're being very very naive if you burn your bridges without an escape plan if you've got the responsiblity of a child. If it turns sour and things fall apart - and his family stop speaking to you - you're going to be stuck in a new area without any support at all.

If you can't find a means to save to cover the deposit, van hire and assorted costs like when bills overlap - and again, it's hard to find private landlords willing to take on benefits recipients - then you need to get saving, see where the relationship goes from here and only take the risk when you're incredibly sure and have the money to hand. You also need to look very carefully at the actual chances of getting ONTO the courses you're planning, and the employment prospects after (I'm coming from a background where they jam students onto training courses for my profession - but there ain't the jobs for them at the other end).

I think you're being somewhat starry-eyed and naive at present - and threatening to leave/flouncing/reappearing when you don't get the answers you want to hear doesn't do you any favours at all. Lots of people on here get their hackles raised at people reacting hostiley when the flaws in their plans are pointed out to them.

katepnlo

Yes.. Exactly what RAS says.
Midwifery is very hard to get onto.
When i applied there were over 600 applicants and 30 something spaces at the uni. You have to show what you are worth on paper and show you are the right type of person for the course and why you should be given a space over all the other applicants

asbokid

katepnlo wrote: »

Midwifery is very hard to get onto.

Fair point well made katepnlo.

Waste of time getting trained as a midwife in the UK. The supply of new babies has virtually dried up because of the recession and the harsh winter of 2010. The UK now has one of the most aged populations in Europe. Today, we are overrun not by immigrants but by dirty, smelly native Brits who are too old to have children, with rare exceptions like Elton John and Bernie Ecclestone.

Anyone interested in nursing should avoid midwifery and look at the other end of the nursing business: end-of-life care.

Death is THE boom industry in Britain today.