Single mum, want to move 300 miles away..

poet123

I think you sound like a lovely girl and an excellent mother who has her priorities right. It is not a bad thing to want to improve your lot, and if your home town and surroundings are as grim as you say, and you have a complete lack of support there, then a move may be the best thing for you. To go now while your son is young is the best idea.

There are jobs and educational opportunities in Merseyside, and hopefully the family will rally round and help you and your son settle in. I do hope so, it sounds as if you need some luck and love.

Consider and plan for, the worst case scenario, (I don't need to spell it out) then go for it. Good luck.

undetterred

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

That is a totally ridiculous thing for someone living on benefits to say!

Leave her alone,i'm sure she spends tax payers money wisely.

RainbowChild_2

I'm from Merseyside and was going to suggest an exchange if possible..also I am not sure where you are at the moment but private rents aren't too expensive up here and Liverpool John Moores Uni has an excellent reputation for nursing....good luck. FWIW my partner moved up from Portsmouth to be with me 4 years ago after we had been together for a year. And there are also many nice places....I have lived all around the UK and there are good and bad areas everywhere..... If you moved would you be entitled to LHA for private renting? Good Luck!

n.b My Mum brought me up with the saying..if you haven't got anything nice to say then don't say anything at all

Rhambeau

I am utterly dumbfounded by the majority of the responses on this thread. It's full of typical working class judgemental trash, directed towards someone for daring to ask for a little advice. I can only assume it's because she's a single mother, who, in my experience, are constantly on the receiving end of (poor) judgement from short-sighted, ignorant plicks. Sickening.

I suppose it's not unexpected, on a site that covets frugality and material possession above - apparently - everything else. Spending nights on end filling in online surveys for what amounts to a couple of quid an hour is something that only someone who values cold hard cash above literally -everything- else would do, I'm oh so sorry to say :S.

The fact that many of you seem to think that uprooting to be happy, loved and attempt to build a life and a family is "less important" for a child than material stability only proves to me that none of you are parents... or if you are... you're ****, cold, materialistic parents like 95% of this !!!!!! of a country, and that you probably think winning a free Nintendo Wii for a child by collecting coupons off of KFC wrappers is more important than affection, company and an EMOTIONALLY stable environment.

Now... next time you see a thread asking for advice, how about some... y'know... actual advice, instead of a competition on who can write the best mimimum-wage class Daily Mail editorial? That would be ossam guise. Fants now, lataz.

Rhambeau

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

That is a totally ridiculous thing for someone living on benefits to say!

And that's something only a money-grubbing shylock would say, who thinks that reliance is limited to financial dependence. You don't raise children by throwing pound coins at them .

Actually, I take that back... you probably do raise children by throwing pound coins at them. It's a carrot and a stick all in one! Now that's good value.

DVardysShadow

Rhambeau wrote: »

I am utterly dumbfounded by the majority of the responses on this thread. It's full of typical working class judgemental trash, directed towards someone for daring to ask for a little advice. I can only assume it's because she's a single mother, who, in my experience, are constantly on the receiving end of (poor) judgement from short-sighted, ignorant plicks. Sickening.

I suppose it's not unexpected, on a site that covets frugality and material possession above - apparently - everything else. Spending nights on end filling in online surveys for what amounts to a couple of quid an hour is something that only someone who values cold hard cash above literally -everything- else would do, I'm oh so sorry to say :S.

The fact that many of you seem to think that uprooting to be happy, loved and attempt to build a life and a family is "less important" for a child than material stability only proves to me that none of you are parents... or if you are... you're ****, cold, materialistic parents like 95% of this !!!!!! of a country, and that you probably think winning a free Nintendo Wii for a child by collecting coupons off of KFC wrappers is more important than affection, company and an EMOTIONALLY stable environment.

Now... next time you see a thread asking for advice, how about some... y'know... actual advice, instead of a competition on who can write the best mimimum-wage class Daily Mail editorial? That would be ossam guise. Fants now, lataz.

I suppose you are elevated above judgementalism??? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Rhambeau

DVardysShadow wrote: »

I suppose you are elevated above judgementalism??? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Clever an observation as you have made (I can see that you're very proud!) my criticism was never of judgementalism. As you can see, in your very own little bolded quotation, it's of a very specific type of judgementalism. Thick, materialistic, short-sighted Dail Mail judgementalism that lumps groups of people together based on the financial or social situation they find themselves in.

Judgement of unnecessarily nasty people for their needless comments about an individual? Oh yes. I judge. I judge quite unashamedly.

whitewing

Rhamtroll, perhaps you can set up your own thread so we can discuss your views in more detail without distracting from KatieVA's questions.

EllePatrick

DVardysShadow wrote: »

I suppose you are elevated above judgementalism??? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Judgementalism is a part of life. I'd even go so far as to say it's an important aspect of it.

However, working class judgementalism is quite clearly a little on the revolting side... there's nothing more nauseating than the mass unwashed writhing around in the mud they so mindlessly sling around.

BitterAndTwisted

Oh, do belt up will you?

Why not pop over to The Arms? I think you'd fit in quite nicely over there.