Husband gone, what now?

TooSad

Hello!

We've just had a great afternoon at the seaside, not really done much just hung out in the sunshine. We had lunch together yesterday also.

He has said many things not specifically about me and him, but about other people, other friends but the situations are similar to ours, I am not going to try to second guess him, but given that he never opens up about his feelings I am wondering if these "friends" albeit real people are actually me & him, does that even make sense??

Anyway we have had a nice time, he even bought me a ring yesterday only a cheapo dress ring but something he had seen me eyeing up.

A large part of me thinks we are going to be ok, although its going to take time, but the little nagging doubt that we won't be scares me to death.

It's our wedding anniversary at the end of the month and although we are not together I still think we should mark it in some way. My acupunctursit thinks we should go away for a few days, I would like nothing more but I am scared of being rejected........ho hum!

Im off for a shower, a bit too much sand and suncream today for me

TS x

TooSad

Tonight I am missing my mum so much, I don't know what's triggered it, I've had a great weekend and a good day at work (for a Monday) I'm laid in bed with tears streaming down my face. I just want to be able to pick up the phone and talk to her, it's not fair at all.

I suppose I've just been thinking what if we don't get back on track who will pick me up and mend me? Sounds ridiculous at 33 but I still want a cuddle from my mum, I still used to sit in a chair with he as though I was sitting on her knee. I don't have that kind of relationship with my dad. He wouldn't know what to do or say.

Ts x

flutterby_lil

Hello honey how has your week been?

You are bound to have down days about your mum, I am sure she is there by your side helping and guiding you through the tough times.

Good luck and glad you had a good weekend x

star65

Also wondering how things are for you? Have only just found your thread and have read all the way through - don't give up on him yet xx

LittleMoog

TooSad wrote: »

Tonight I am missing my mum so much, I don't know what's triggered it, I've had a great weekend and a good day at work (for a Monday) I'm laid in bed with tears streaming down my face. I just want to be able to pick up the phone and talk to her, it's not fair at all.

I suppose I've just been thinking what if we don't get back on track who will pick me up and mend me? Sounds ridiculous at 33 but I still want a cuddle from my mum, I still used to sit in a chair with he as though I was sitting on her knee. I don't have that kind of relationship with my dad. He wouldn't know what to do or say.

Ts x

hi TooSad,
I lost my mum 13 years ago , and there are still days when all I want is my Mum to come and give me a hug and sort out whatever's bothering me. I'm 29, and I don't think that will ever go away. I find that if I let myself have a good cry when I feel that way, afterwards I'm able put those feelings away and get on with things
Here's a big hug from me :grouphug: hope you're feeling a bit brighter now.

TooSad

Hey

Thanks for wondering how I am. I am doing OK, I haven't seen the OH since Sunday, we have both been really busy with work things and been busy on an evening like tonight I've been swimming. I don't think that we will see each other until next week now as I have such a busy weekend planned. I do miss him so so much, but I am not sitting on my !!! waiting for him to come back.

We had such a nice time at the seaside and we are getting on so much better so I still remain very focused and very positive.

I have had an evening with his mum this week which has been nice, she still hopes that everything will work out, ever the optimist she has said she is sure it will. I didn't have a lot to tell her because he had told her everything that i've been upto. She thinks we should go away for a few days when it is our wedding anniversary in a few weeks, but I am still reticent as I don't want to be rejected by him, I can't face feeling sad all over again and I don't want to spoil what we have built back up together - if that makes sense?

Im going to bed in a mo, absolutely shattered from swimming and work this week. I hope one day soom I am coming on here and saying he is coming home. Still keep everything crossed for us.

Thanks for caring.
TooSad xxx

TooSad

Hi

Just a quick update, nothing really to say, things are just the same as before. Still going out, still having time together, trying to work through problems and rebuild.

I break up next week and we will have 6 weeks together to work on things so fingers crossed that time is what we need.

Its our wedding anniversary soon, still not sure what to do about it.

One thing that has happend is after our fab day at the seaside, I got home from work the other day to a speeding ticket from that day out (!!!!) 17 years of a clean licence and now this....grrrr!

Back soon, hopefully with more of an update.
Toosad x

whitewing

Girl, that's just a reminder not to go too fast!

Hope you guys get there in the end. It is sounding promising.

TooSad

Im just posting as I have nobody to talk to. I finished work today and instead of elation I feel so sad. I don't know if I have any fight left in me to carry on. I love my husband with all my heart, some things have happened this week which are happy events in the family but I feel nothing but jealousy and sadness. He won't talk about it I tried tonight but he drank his tea gave me a cuddle and left, like he was either scared of talking or couldn't be bothered with it.
I've gone up bed because at least asleep I don't feel anything good or bad.

I just want to turn back the clock.

TooSad

I can't even sleep - such a loser & a failure!